The Best Pegging Sex Guide You'll Ever Read

written by Mayla Green published February 25, 2019



Pegging

Have you ever wondered what is pegging?

By definition, pegging sex, means anal sex performed by a woman on a man. Since it's not anatomically possible for a woman to peg a man, she uses a pegging toy or wears a pegging strap on to get the job done.

Let's take a closer look.

A typical pegging toy is thin, tapered and often curved. They are actually similar to anal toys and butt plugs – but the difference is she handles the toy while he lays (or kneels, or stands, or sits) and enjoys the feel. Pegging toys are often combined with mutual masturbation and/or couples foreplay.

OK, I know what you're thinking:



Can't any butt plug or dildo be used as a pegging toy?

Yes, it can! Technically anything that can be put into his butt can be a pegging toy. We have separate categories of butt plugs & dildos for men – men buy these to use solo, so technically speaking, they're not pegging toys unless his gal is there to use them on him. All you need is another set of hands back there to transform an ordinary sex toy into a pegging sex toy.

So why classify it as something different?

Beginners Pegging Toy
One of our best pegging toys for beginners!

Every day, husbands & wives, girlfriends & boyfriends call us and ask about pegging. It's wild trend right now (actually, it's been going on for years, but only recently has it been gaining popularity. We'll touch on a few reasons why a little later on. Stay tuned...) Just to make shopping easy, we've added a section for only pegging. This way when a couple is looking try try this new sexual practice, they can find all the products in one spot. It's hard to convince couples to try anal toys together, but for some reason (we actually know why, but more on that later) it's easy to get a couple on their way to awesome pegging sex adventures.

But the bottom line is this: (no pun intended!)

We've listed a dozen or so pegging harnesses, but if you don't like this selection, you can simply choose any of the strap ons that have a removable dildo, take it out, and insert one that he'll agree to have go in his butt. All it takes is a little communication to decide on what he wants to try. So pick any of these harnesses and create your own pegging sex toy kit.

There's a secret bonus you should know:

If you pick a strap on that comes with a regular sized dildo that he would never allow come within 10 feet of his butt, that's okay because the lady can use it has her own toy! Hooray, everyone gets a new toy, and the couple gets the harness style they like best.



What does anal pegging feel like?

This is the million dollar question. Guys love it. Why? Anal penetration brings immense sexual pleasure, there are sensitive nerves that lie inside the butt and the prostate gland is the holy grail of men's sexual pleasure. Prostate stimulation is the source of gigantic, jaw-dropping orgasms, and the theory is that pegging touches the prostate. Not all pegging toys offer prostate stimulation, and the proper sexual position makes all the difference to whether he'll have a P-spot orgasm or not. We'll elaborate on that soon, but let's back up for a moment here. The gentle sliding in & out of a thin, small toy in the anus matches perfectly with the rhythm of masturbation and sex. It's like an enhancement from behind. It's no secret that anal stimulation enhances male orgasms, and this addition to sex is certainly worthy of its trendy status in bedroom across America right now.



Pegging doesn't feel much different compared to using an anal or prostate toy, but with the interactive involvement of my wife, it adds an unexpected level of intimacy and connected feeling that only is possible with pegging sex. It's unlike any other sexual experience mostly due to the emotional aspect. We share a naughty, kinky secret and it's rather empowering to both of us to share this activity. — Anonymous Husband



How to prepare for pegging sex:

Let's answer this question from the man's perspective:

  • 1. If you've never experienced anal penetration before, we suggest that you try it solo first. You'll discover the certain angle that feels best, and know exactly how deep, fast and forceful it can be before it starts to feel uncomfortable.

  • 2. Make sure to add lubrication! Anal lube is thicker than other styles of personal lube and isn't as runny. Apply lube both to the tip of the toy, and to the anus. Push your finger inside a centimeter or so to make sure the sphincter is well lubricated before inserting the device.

  • 3. Wear a butt plug during masturbation. This will get you used to the feel and you'll notice that as orgasm approaches, you'll want to thrust the toy in & out and move it faster. Before you are directing your wife or girlfriend “faster, harder!” you want to be well aware of your body's limits so you don't hurt yourself.



Why do women like pegging men?

This is really a psychological question, because pegging offers her no sexual stimulation at all! Women like pegging men because suddenly the roles are reversed – she is in control! She gets to exude dominance over him and call the shots. As mentioned above in the anonymous husband's quote, it's the sense of sharing something so intimate that also has appeal.

You may be asking: Why on earth would anyone want to do this?

If we haven't convinced you yet to try pegging, perhaps you're currently satisfied with a modest sex life and feel no urge to delve into kink – and that's okay! Believe it or not, happily married couples are enjoying pegging strap on sex more than anyone else. Pegging is more common than you think. After 10, 20 or 30 years of marriage, the sex life can really get dull. It happens to everyone eventually so thankfully it's totally acceptable in our American society to do “kinky things” to spice it up. The role reversal gender bender games that accompany anal sex are one of those ways that the couples enhances their sex life.



Pegging Strap On
The perfect pegging strap on for him.

Is Pegging Gay?

No! Some will dispute this statement however and say that since it's anal penetration on men, it IS gay. But that's simply not true.

Let me explain further:

Only a woman can peg a man. That means he is in a heterosexual partnership and is not gay. Sure a gay couple can wear a strap on with a dildo instead of the same-ol' anal sex they're used to, but it's not called pegging. What is gay man pegging called then? Good question! It doesn't have a name. In fact you'll be surprised to hear that this is a new term that's only been coined since 2001. Sure couples would do it before, but it never had a name. It was thanks to sex columnist Dan Savage who ran a contest to name this sexual practice. Maybe it's our turn to run a contest to name the practice when done by a gay couple? And why not name the same erotic act by a lesbian couple? This is inspiring. We'll get on this soon...

Some men may still feel it's gay if the device she uses is shaped like a penis, so we advise couples to pick any small anal toy with a non-phallic shape. Plugs & probes are the most discreet and sure to make him feel mentally comfortable with trying anal penetration. It's a good place to start for the hesitant guy. Furthermore, if the anal toy you chose has a flat base (which many do), you'll be able to use it in the strap on harness.





Pegging How To & Positions

Step #1 - Gather the right gear!

For first timers looking to start pegging, these products will make it more enjoyable & lots of fun:

The Mini Curved Pegging Toy is our best pegging dildo. It's small and perfect for beginners. The soft, narrow head is the perfect size to try for first timer's insertion. It has a wide base to fit in a strap on harness too. Most notably however, is the wicked curve perfect for prostate stimulation.

The Bare Harness is our sexiest looking harness. It looks like a thong when she wears it, for this style of sex you don't need one of those big, heavy duty supportive harnesses because you won't be jack hammering him anyway. Keep it simple, keep it sexy!

Thick water based Anal Lube is our best option because it's really thick so it won't be as runny as regular lube. This one also comes in a cherry flavor to mask unpleasant scents. Some places suggest silicone anal lube which has an easier glide, but we think water based is much easier to wash off when you're done.



Step #2 – Assume the position:

Did you get our joke there “ass-ume”! The best pegging position for beginners is to have him lean over the bed with his tummy facing down, hips bent at the side of the bed, feet on the floor. It also helps to know where is anus is so spread those cheeks nice & wide and take a peek. It can be tricky to find the entry, so you may need to ask him for a guiding hand to crack that first inch. Another common pegging position is missionary style, with him laying on the bed, but he'll need to bend his knees to leave better access underneath the testicles. This position is favorable because his erection is free for handling. Try giving him a hand job while doing the deed from behind.



Invent your own dildo pegging positions:

Strap on pegging is limited in how many positions a couple can try, but if you truly want unlimited positions, use a hand held device for backdoor use. Sure the strap on is hands free and leaves your hand available for nipple pinching, penis stroking or whatever else you want to do, but pegging dildo sex allows you to incorporate this act into normal sexual intercourse, foreplay oral sex, in the bathtub or shower. Honestly your imagination is the limits when you use a hand held device. Now you're not limited to toys with a flat round base or suction cup. Now you can try any other vibrator, probe, anything that's thin enough to provide him pleasure.

So it all adds up to this:

You don't need to buy a pegging toy only. Try a plastic vibrator, a G-spot vibrator, a tickler, anything that he doesn't mind having go inside his ass will work just fine when you're holding it with your hand. Now here's where the truly inventive and kinky couples shine! Be creative and try some different styles of toys & vibrators.

Now there's one really important tip to mention:

Never, ever share sex toys that are for the vagina to the anus. It is a sure way to spread germs. A toy for the vagina should stay for the vagina. A toy for the ass should stay a toy for the ass. He might have his eyes on her tapered tulip wonder vibrator, but he MUST buy his own. Never stick her sex toys in his butt. Never. Okay we're almost done! One last thing to mention along the lines of hygiene & sanitation.



How to Clean Pegging Toys

Yes, pegging sex can be messy. We're not going to lie. Some men will use an enema or anal douche before anal sex and that's an excellent way of reducing mess and unpleasant odors. In fact, we recommend it but some newbies don't like the idea, that just sounds way too hardcore. Point taken. The truth is, even if you douche or enema before anal play, you'll need to clean the toys after anyways. It's just proper, healthy practice. The toys should be rinsed thoroughly with with hot water. Spray antibacterial sanitizer over the surface and rub it in again. Rinse well and pat dry with a towel. It's the same cleaning rules as any other adult toy, but we figured we'd cover this topic anyway because it's extra important to keep anal toys tidy, fresh & clean.



We're finally done. Now you're an expert too!

Now you know the meaning of pegging, what it feels like, and why it's common. Now it's your turn to enjoy the best, most romantic, most intimate sex of your life. Buy pegging toys now and have FUN!