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What Is a Prostate Massage and How To Do It

What Is a Prostate Massage and How To Do It

You have most likely heard about women's G-spot - an erogenous zone inside a woman's vagina that, when stimulated, brings a very intense orgasm. But did you know that men also have a similar spot?

A male g-spot, or a p-spot as some call it, is located deep inside the groin and can be stimulated through a prostate massage. This is the purpose behind the prostate massager for men. What exactly is a prostate massage, when it is done, and how you can do it are just some of the questions that will be answered in the article below.

What Is a Prostate Massage?

Prostate massage, also known as prostate milking, is a technique involving stimulating the prostate. There are two main scenarios in which it would be performed - either for medical purposes or for sexual stimulation.

The prostate is a part of the male's reproductive system, alongside the penis, seminal vesicles, and testicles. It's a walnut-sized gland located below the bladder and in front of the rectum.

This seemingly small part of the human body is crucial in maintaining men's and AMAB's fertility, as it produces seminal fluid - the liquid that, when mixed with sperm, creates semen.

Who can do a prostate massage? Anyone can give one, no matter their gender, anyone can use a mens anal dildo. As for who can receive a prostate massage, the answer is anyone that has a prostate. After all, you can't massage something that isn't there.

Prostate Massage in Medical Settings

As we already mentioned, the first (and definitely less fun) of the two situations in which one can receive a prostate massage is for medical purposes.

The most common use of prostate massage in medicine is DRE. It's part of a male routine check-up performed by urologists to check the overall health of the prostate and whether there's any enlargement or inflammation of the prostate that might suggest an infection, as well as look for early signs of prostate cancer.

If there are any signs of any health issues, a doctor might perform a massage to obtain expressed prostatic secretion, which will then be tested. Because of the fact that prostate massage may be used to empty fluids from your prostate ducts, it is sometimes called a "drainage."

There is also a number of other medical conditions whose symptoms can be alleviated thanks to a prostate massage. Those are:

  • Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) - this is a medical condition that usually affects those over 50. It's non-cancerous, and one of the symptoms is an enlarged prostate, alongside difficulty in fully emptying the bladder and/or loss of bladder control. Although the studies are limited, the ones we have show that prostate stimulation might help to alleviate symptoms.
  • Chronic prostatitis - if prostate enlargement happens due to an injury or an illness, it might result in prostatitis, which is a medical condition that is characterized by flu-like symptoms, pain in the pelvic area, and difficulty urinating. Again, we don't have a lot of studies regarding the impact of repetitive prostatic massage therapy, the ones we have suggested that while it shouldn't be used as treatment, it can help provide relief to patients suffering from it.
  • Erection problems - some men who suffered from erectile dysfunction claim that regular prostate massage improved their sexual pleasure and that it allowed them to ejaculate more easily, although there are no official studies that would either confirm or deny it.
  • Urine flow - one of the reasons why you might have trouble with urinating is an enlarged prostate. That's because the tube responsible for draining your bladder - your urethra - is located very close to the prostate gland. Prostate massage may reduce it, giving your urinary tract some room to breathe and work properly.

Prostate Massage for Sexual Pleasure

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The second, and in our opinion, a much better setting in which prostate massage can be used is as a way to bring sexual pleasure to yourself or to your partner. After all, it's not without reason that the prostate is considered to be the male G-spot, or, as some would call it, the P-spot.

Prostate-induced orgasms with anal toys for men are usually a lot more powerful than those reached only via penile stimulation. The easiest way to perform a prostate massage is by using your fingers, but there is a number of different sex toys, such as prostate massagers, available for this exact purpose. The prostate gland can also be stimulated during anal play.

Prostate stimulation doesn't have to be performed on the inside - a prostate orgasm can also be reached from the outside by massaging the area between the anus and the scrotum, also known as the perineum. An orgasm reached this way is called a perineum orgasm.

How to Milk the Prostate

To perform a prostate massage, you first need to find it - the older you or your partner are, the easier it will be as the prostate enlarges with age. If you are using a prostate massager sex toy, check out my instructions on how to use a prostate massager here or a complete tutorial online.

So, to find the prostate, you want to first lubricate the finger you will be using to do it. Since the anus doesn't lubricate itself, you need to help it a little bit. You can do it barehand, or you can use a glove which will not only make for a smoother insertion but is also a better option due to hygienic reasons.

Once you have a lubricated finger, gently insert it into your or your partner's rectum and push slightly on its front wall. Keep in mind that you might feel a slight budge while doing it. Massage the prostate in a consistent motion, either circular or back-and-forth - whatever brings the person being massaged the most pleasure.

How to Prepare for Prostate Massages

To ensure that everything goes as smoothly as possible and the only thing you or your partner feel during a prostate massage is pleasure, you need to prepare properly. Here are some of the things you might want to do:

  • Cut and file your fingernails so that you don't accidentally scratch, cut or tear the prostate or the rectum.
  • Wash and dry your hands thoroughly.
  • Apply a generous amount of lubricant to your fingers - preferably a water-based or silicon-based one that is fragrance-free.
  • Perform a light douching, as it helps in removing fecal matter from the rectum.
  • If you're using a toy for prostate play, make sure that it's clean and dry.

Best Positions for a Prostate Massage

There are several positions that make prostate milking not only easier but also more pleasurable. The ones we mentioned above are especially good for those who want to perform it on themselves, as it gives them easier access to their anus and perineum. Those include:

  • laying face down - just lay with your face down and spread your legs slightly.
  • on all fours - rest on your knees and hands. This position is also good for anal stimulation with a partner.
  • on your back - lay down on your back, put both of your knees towards your chest, and hold them with one of your arms while using the other one for prostate massage.
  • laying on one side - lay on one side, whichever you feel more comfortable on, and bring your outer knee to your chest.

Prostate Massage - Frequently Asked Questions

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Can a prostate massage relieve symptoms connected with prostatic diseases?

Yes, therapeutic prostate massage can help to relieve pressure and symptoms associated with prostatic diseases like Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia (BPH) or chronic prostatitis.

Are there any risks associated with prostate massage?

In most cases, massaging the prostate gland doesn't bring any risk. However, you might experience some minor injury if the person doing the massage uses an aggressive technique.

You might also get a prostate infection if the person performing the massage does it with unwashed hands (the bacteria can easily enter the anus in this situation).

Why is massaging the prostate a pleasurable sexual practice?

The reason behind it is that the prostate gland is surrounded by nerve endings, which is why prostate orgasms are so different from those reached any other way. Some guys will wear an anal plug for men all day just to enjoy P-Spot stimulation.

Who should avoid prostate massages?

You might be wondering - are there any specific situations in which a person is better off avoiding getting a prostate massage? The answer is yes, there are some people who should definitely reconsider getting one. Those are:

  • People with bacterial prostatitis. Prostate massage may cause the bacteria to spread to other parts of your body, including the urethra, the urinary tract, and the bloodstream.
  • People who suffer from fissures or hemorrhoids. A prostate massage, whether it's a manual prostate massage or with a sex toy, can lead to an infection, as well as cause bleeding.
  • People with prostate cancer. We mentioned how a prostate massage performed in a medical setting can help detect prostate cancer, and that is true. However, if you already know that you have it, you should avoid prostate toys and prostate massages altogether, as they might cause the cancer cells to break off and spread to other parts of your body. Also, a prostate-specific antigen (PSA) blood test shouldn't be done right after a prostate massage, as it might result in a false positive result.

Is there a difference between a prostate orgasm and penile orgasms?

There are actually several differences between the two.

First of all, the liquid that comes out during ejaculation - with a penile orgasm, the liquid is made up of several fluids that come from different parts of a reproductive system, including the seminal vesicles and the urethral and bulbourethral glands. In the case of a prostate orgasm, on the other hand, the liquid comes from only one place - the prostate gland.

Secondly, the organ that needs to be stimulated to achieve an orgasm - penile orgasms usually happen through the stimulation of the penis, while prostate orgasms, as we already mentioned, generally happen due to stimulation of the prostate.

The next thing that distinguishes these two is the intensity. Since the prostate is surrounded by several nerve endings, it is generally more intense than a penile orgasm.

Finally, we have the recovery time. It is usually easier for men to recover after a prostate orgasm than after a penile orgasm.

Can you have a prostate orgasm and a penile orgasm at the same time?

Yes, you can have both at the same time or one after the other. However, keep in mind that you might lose your erection after a prostate orgasm, making reaching a penile orgasm right after harder to achieve.

Can an enlarged prostate affect your sexual function?

Yes, an enlarged prostate can affect normal male sexual function. You might, for example, experience lower libido, and an enlarged prostate combined with painful inflammation might put you off from sexual intercourse altogether.


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If your sex life is getting too repetitive, and you wanna try something new in the bedroom, a prostate massage might be exactly what you're looking for. It's a technique that stimulates your prostate to the point of reaching an orgasm, which is usually a lot more intense than the one reached via normal penetration or masturbation.

However, sexual satisfaction is not the only instance it is used - a doctor might decide to perform a prostate exam when they have a feeling you might be suffering from one of the prostate conditions or even prostate cancer. In that case, they will gently massage the prostate until they have enough prostatic fluid to examine.

Prostate massage can be performed with only your fingers, with a sex toy (such as a prostate massager), or during anal penetration - the choice is yours. However, when purchasing a prostate massager, make sure that you only buy it from reliable sources. At AdultToyShop, we only store toys whose quality we are sure of and that we know you will be satisfied with.

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So, what are you waiting for? Trust us when we say you won't regret trying it out! 

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Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

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