How to Use a Dildo: Step by Step Instructions with Video
Last Updated on October 20, 2025
The dildo is one of the most famous sex toys for women designed for satisfying self-love, incredible pleasure and new experiences in the bedroom.
Masturbating with just your fingers gets boring really quickly. As females, we like to fantasize about being penetrated. Sex with a studly lover is always in the forefront of our sexual fantasies. It's simply natural – we enjoy the feel of penetrative sex!
We feel sexually aroused and the muscles in the vagina soften and relax. We get wet. We crave stimulation and using a dildo replicates the sensation of sex without needing a partner. In today's tutorial, you'll learn the essential instructions needed to use a dildo for the maximum pleasure possible.
How to Insert a Dildo
The single most important tip to enhance comfort upon initial penetration is to use lube. Once you have a good bottle of lube in hand, here are the remaining steps for comfortably inserting a dildo:
- Thoroughly lubricate the head of your dildo.
- By twisting your hand, spread lube around the top half of the shaft.
- Apply lube to your finger and rim the vaginal opening.
- Add lubricant to the inner & outer labia.
- Spread the labia open with your index & middle fingers.
- Push the shaft in & out slowly to spread the moisture evenly.
- Alternatively, twisting the shaft with your hand also helps to ease it in.
Video Tutorial
In the video tutorial, I begin by demonstrating the key steps on how to insert a dildo followed by a few techniques on how to use a dildo. You don't necessarily need to do all of these steps in succession, but if you're a beginner, give them all a try to see which method feels best for you. Personal preference always prevails however – the real way to enjoy it properly is simply to do what feels best for YOU!
Here are a few key pointers to improve your pleasure:
- Think Rhythmically
Move the toy in & out smooth and sensually. Think of erotic, passionate sex that starts out slow and builds up slowly as the body increases its sexual response. Increase thrusting motion as you feel more aroused. - Amplify the Movement
While holding the base, “stir” the shaft in a wide circular motion. This encourages the inserted portion to massage firmly against the interior vagina walls and increases sensation. If the dildo has a curve, point the tip towards your G-Spot and jiggle it there. - Mushroom Head Provides the “Pop”
Pull it out all the way and push it back in. This repeated motion amplifies the sensation of a mushroom head, or the feeling of sex with a circumcised penis beyond what you'll feel in real life. - Rub your Clitoris
Most women require clitoral stimulation in addition to vaginal penetration to climax. Rub your clitoris in a circular motion while using your dildo. Press the clitoris firmly as arousal increases while thrusting it harder.
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Advanced Dildo Techniques
Masturbating with a dildo alone feels good, but often is not enough for a woman to reach the perfect orgasm. Add on a few more sex toys to the mix and create yourself the perfect recipe for amazing orgasms and intense pleasure from the blend of internal & external stimulation.
The best way to achieve a strong orgasm when using a dildo is to stimulate your clitoris at the same time. Check out the video demonstration that shows advanced techniques on ways to combine other sex toys to create a thrilling orgasm. To summarize, all you need to do is hold a bullet vibrator (or any other small vibrator, for that matter) on your clitoris with one hand while holding the dildo with the other hand.
Getting yourself warmed up before sex with a small dildo is a common way for women to enjoy intercourse with their partner. If you experience vaginal dryness or low libido, masturbating with sex toys during foreplay is the perfect way to encourage a sexual response and increase arousal, and enhancing your play with vibrating clitoral stimulation is our best tip of them all.
What Type of Dildo Should I Use?
We have a catalog full of dildos for sale online, so where to start? Here are some of the best types of dildos that provide a good experience and are popular choices for re-creating penetrative sex during solo or partnered play:
- Real skin feel dildo - The most luxurious option with warm skin like feeling skin. The finest in true realism for those seeking a true-to-life experience, a “real skin dildo” should be the top choice.
- Dildo like a penis - Pick your perfect likelife lover, a sturdy erect penis to satisfy you all night long. These sturdy toys are good for hard play or soft intimate loving – they are well suited to all sorts of applications both vaginally and anally. Budget friendly too!
- Small dildo for beginners – Slim & mini dildos are the perfect starting point for any beginner. A gentle, introductory experience in small size that's easiest to use.
- Dildo with a suction cup base – The flat suction dildo sticks to a wall or tub and the circular base fits perfectly in your hand like a built-in handle. Check out the tutorial on suction cup dildos here!
- Double Headed Dildos - This type is super fun to use, the extra length adds some kink factor and adventure to your partner play sessions. How to use a double dildo properly during solo play? It's a two-hander!
- Ejaculating dildo that squirts – Get wild with a realistic squirting dildo that cums. Add fake semen lube and explore a kinky side of sex play. The complete tutorial can be found here!
Strap-on Dildos - This is such a vast topic that I've published it's own instruction manual with tips and more. Click here to find out how to put on a strap on and how they work along with buying guides and advice for beginners.
- Anal Dildos for Men – Guys use dildos for prostate stimulation. Check out our selection of anal dildos and find the tutorials for each product accessible by the link at the bottom of each page. Using an anal dildo is not much different than a vaginal dildo, but if you're trying to stimulate the prostate, there are a few extra tips that make it feel better.
Cleaning & Care
I must add a quick note about cleanliness & hygiene. Cleaning your dildo is extremely important. Once the fun is done, check out the guide with cleaning tips to keep sexual enjoyment safe forever.
Where to Buy a Dildo
TheAdultToyShop.com is the premier online dildo store for women. You may call me bias for saying that, but I've worked for decades to provide more information and better products than you'll find anywhere else. I've got some great beginner-friendly tips for buying a dildo, so check out my guide with advice on selecting the best dildo for fun in the bedroom either during solo or partner play.
