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What Is Pegging? | What Does Pegging in Sex Mean?

What Is Pegging? | What Does Pegging in Sex Mean?

Welcome your curious eyes! Ever wonder: “What is Pegging?” Obviously, or you wouldn't have searched for the definition online!

You're about to embark on a new sexual adventure along with millions of other American couples who enjoy the benefits of physical & emotional intimate exploration. Learn what does pegging mean and how its done.

Anal Pegging FAQ's:

There's alot to learn here. Many men's butt cherries have yet to be popped, and there is lots to know before taking the plunge, (pun totally intended)!

First we'll cover important tips and safety advice along with answering the following commonly asked questions:

  1. What is pegging in sex?
  2. What does pegging mean?
  3. How common is pegging?
  4. What does it feel like?
  5. How to prepare for pegging sex?
  6. How it is incorporated by men and women during sex?
  7. What are the best pegging positions?
  8. Why do men and women like it?

Introduction: That's a heavy load of questions, and now I'll answer them all in my complete FAQ guide for couples who are seeking new adventures in the bedroom. Ready to start? First I'll explore the definition of the million dollar question:

Q. What is Pegging?

A. By definition, pegging sex means anal sex performed by a woman on a man.

Since it's not anatomically possible for a woman to peg a man, she wears a pegging strap on with a small dildo attached to get the job done. We're often asked "what is pegging" because the answer is so specific for what is essentially, butt sex with the male as the “receiver” and the female as the “giver”.

A typical anal pegging accessory is thin, tapered and often curved to reach the prostate. They are actually similar to butt plugs – but the difference is she handles the toy while he lays (or kneels, or stands, or sits) and enjoys the feel.

Anal pegging devices are often combined with mutual masturbation and/or couples foreplay making your typical lovemaking session into a complete marathon of pure kink & pleasure. Check out my list of the best pegging toys to get you started. These are all popular choices for first timers so he won't pucker up too tightly upon initial entry!

Q. Can any Butt Plug or Dildo be used as a Pegging Toy?

A. Yes, it can! Technically anything that can be put into his butt can be a pegging toy.

We have separate categories of butt plugs & dildos for men – men buy these to use solo, so technically speaking, they're not pegging toys unless his gal is there to use them on him. All you need is another set of hands back there to transform an ordinary sex toy into a prostate pegging sex toy.

Beginners Pegging Toy
A typical first timers pegging accessory.

Every day, husbands & wives, girlfriends & boyfriends call us and ask what is pegging in sex? It's wild trend right now (actually, it's been going on for years, but only recently has it been gaining popularity. We'll touch on a few reasons why a little later on. Stay tuned...) Just to make shopping easy, we've added a section for only anal pegging.

This way when a couple is looking try try this new sexual practice, they can find all the products in one spot. It's hard to convince couples to try anal toys together, but for some reason (we actually know why, but more on that later) it's easy to get a couple on their way to awesome pegging sex adventures.

But the bottom line is this: (no pun intended!) We've listed a dozen or so pegging harnesses, but if you don't like this selection, you can simply choose any of the strap ons with a removable dildo. Take it out, and insert a smaller one that he'll agree to have go in his butt.

All it takes is a little communication to decide on what he wants to try. So pick any of these harnesses and create your own best pegging sex toy kit. Pick something with a curve to massage the prostate for stronger orgasms.

If you pick a strap on that comes with a regular sized dildo for women that your guy would never allow come within 10 feet of his butt, that's okay because you can use it yourself! Hooray, everyone gets a new toy, and the couple gets the harness style they like best.

Q. What Does Anal Pegging Feel Like?

A. Anal penetration brings immense sexual pleasure, there are sensitive nerves that lie inside the butt and the prostate gland is the holy grail of male sexual pleasure.

Prostate stimulation is the source of gigantic, jaw-dropping orgasms, and the theory is that anal pegging touches the prostate. Not all back door accessories for him offer prostate stimulation, and the proper sexual position makes all the difference to whether he'll have a P-spot orgasm or not. We'll elaborate on that soon, but let's back up for a moment here.

The gentle sliding in & out of a thin, small toy in the anus matches perfectly with the rhythm of masturbation and sex. It's like an enhancement from behind. It's no secret that rectal stimulation enhances male orgasms, and this addition to sex is certainly worthy of its trendy status in bedroom across America right now.

Q. Let's ask a married man: What is Pegging Like?

A. Pegging doesn't feel much different compared to using a prostate toy, but with the interactive involvement of my wife, it adds an unexpected level of intimacy and connected feeling that only is possible with perfect anal pegging sex.

It's unlike any other mutual sexual experience mostly due to the emotional aspect. We share a naughty, kinky secret and it's rather empowering to both of us to share this activity. ~ Anonymous Husband

How to Prepare for Pegging Sex:

Let's answer this question from the man's perspective:

  • 1. If you've never experienced anal penetration before, we suggest that you try it solo first. You'll discover the certain angle that feels best, and know exactly how deep, fast and forceful it can be before it starts to feel uncomfortable. Only once you've experimented solo can you experience perfect pegging sex.

  • 2. Make sure to add LOTS of lubrication! Anal lube is thicker than other styles of personal lube and isn't as runny. Apply lube both to the tip of the toy, and to the anus. Push your finger inside a centimeter or so to make sure the sphincter is well lubricated before inserting the device.

  • 3. Wear a butt plug during solo and/or mutual masturbation. This will get you used to the feel and you'll notice that as orgasm approaches, you'll want to thrust the toy in & out and move it faster. Before you are directing your wife or girlfriend “faster, harder!” you want to be well aware of your body's limits so you don't hurt yourself.

Pegging Strap On
The perfect pegging strap on for him.

Q. Why do Women Like Pegging Men?

A. Women like pegging men because suddenly the roles are reversed – she is in control!

This is really a psychological question, because pegging offers her no sexual stimulation at all. She gets to exude dominance over him and call the shots. As mentioned above in the anonymous husband's quote, it's the sense of sharing something so intimate that also has appeal.

If we haven't convinced you yet to try it, perhaps you're currently satisfied with a modest sex life and feel no urge to delve into kink – and that's okay! Believe it or not, happily married couples are enjoying pegging strap on sex more than anyone else.

Pegging is more common than you think. After 10, 20 or 30 years of marriage, the sex life can really get dull. It happens to everyone eventually so thankfully it's totally acceptable in our American society to do “kinky things” to spice it up.

The role reversal gender bender games that accompany anal sex are one of those ways that the couples enhances their sex life. That's why couples who ask what is pegging sometimes feel bored in the bedroom.

Q. Is Pegging Gay?

A. No. Only a woman can peg a man. That means he is in a heterosexual partnership and is not gay.

Some will dispute this statement and say that since it's anal penetration on men, it IS gay. In order for it to be gay, it must be man-on-man intercourse.

Sure a gay couple can wear a strap on with a dildo instead of the same-ol' butt sex they're used to, but it's not called "pegging".

In fact you'll be surprised to hear that the definition of pegging is a new term that's only been coined since 2001. Sure couples would do it before, but it never had a name. It was thanks to sex columnist Dan Savage who ran a contest to name this sexual practice.

Maybe it's our turn to run a contest to name the practice when done by a gay couple? And why not name the same erotic act by a lesbian couple? This is inspiring. We'll get on this soon...

Some men may still feel it's gay if the device she uses is shaped like a penis, so we advise couples to pick any small anal toy with a non-phallic shape. Plugs & probes are the most discreet and sure to make him feel mentally comfortable with trying rectal penetration.

It's a good place to start for the hesitant guy. Furthermore, if the anal toy you chose has a flat base (which many do), you'll be able to use it in the strap on harness.

Pegging toys
Classic pegging accessory shapes.

Pegging How To:

Step #1 - Gather the right gear!

For first timers looking to start the best pegging sex ever, these 3 products will make it more enjoyable & lots of fun:

  1. The Mini Curved Pegging Toy is our best tool for first timers. It's small and perfect for beginners. The soft, narrow head is the perfect size to try for first timer's insertion. It has a wide base to fit in a strap on harness too. Most notably however, is the wicked curve perfect for prostate stimulation.
  2. The Bare Harness is our sexiest looking harness. It looks like a thong when she wears it, for this style of sex you don't need one of those big, heavy duty supportive harnesses because you won't be jack hammering him anyway. Keep it simple, keep it sexy!
  3. Thick water based Anal Lube is our best option because it's really thick so it won't be as runny as regular lube. This one also comes in a cherry flavor to mask unpleasant scents. Some places suggest silicone anal lube which has an easier glide, but we think water based is much easier to wash off when you're done.

Step #2 – Assume the position:

Did you get our joke there “ass-ume”! The best pegging position for beginners is to have him lean over the bed with his tummy facing down, hips bent at the side of the bed, feet on the floor. It also helps to know where is anus is so spread those cheeks nice & wide and take a peek.

pegging how to

It can be tricky to find the entry, so you may need to ask him for a guiding hand to crack that first inch. Another common pegging position is missionary style, with him laying on the bed, but he'll need to bend his knees to leave better access underneath the testicles. This position is favorable because his erection is free for handling.

PRO TIP: Reach around and give a hand job while pegging him from behind.

Strap on pegging is limited in how many positions a couple can try, but if you truly want unlimited positions, use a hand held device for backdoor use. Sure the strap on is hands free and leaves your hand available for nipple pinching, penis stroking or whatever else you want to do, but pegging dildo sex allows you to incorporate this act into normal sexual intercourse, foreplay oral sex, in the bathtub or shower.

Honestly your imagination is the limits when you use a hand held device. Now you're not limited to toys with a flat round base or suction cup. Now you can try any other vibrator, probe, anything that's thin enough to provide him pleasure.

pegging how to

You don't need to buy a pegging toy only. Try a plastic vibrator, a G-spot vibrator, a tickler, anything that he doesn't mind having go inside his ass will work just fine when you're holding it with your hand.

Now here's where the truly inventive and kinky couples shine! Be creative and try some different styles of toys & vibrators. Flying solo? Want to reach the prostate for a P-spot orgasm and stronger ejaculations? Try it alone!

Never, ever share sex toys that are for the vagina to the anus. It is a sure way to spread germs. A toy for the vagina should stay for the vagina. A toy for the ass should stay a toy for the ass.

He might have his eyes on her tapered tulip wonder vibrator, but he MUST buy his own. Never stick her sex toys in his butt. Never. Okay we're almost done! One last thing to mention along the lines of hygiene & sanitation.

Important Advice on Cleanliness

Pegging sex can be messy. We're not going to lie it can be dirty. Some men will use an enema or anal douche before backdoor sex and that's an excellent way of reducing mess and unpleasant odors. In fact, we recommend it but some newbies don't like the idea, that just sounds way too hardcore. Point taken. Watch the video, you'll see how simple it is to douche.

The truth is, even if you douche or enema before anus play, you'll need to clean the toys after anyways. It's just proper, healthy practice. The toys should be rinsed thoroughly with with hot water.

Spray antibacterial sanitizer over the surface and rub it in again. Rinse well and pat dry with a towel. It's the same cleaning rules as any other adult toy, but we figured we'd cover this topic anyway because it's extra important to keep anal toys tidy, fresh & clean.

In Conclusion

I hope I thoughtfully answered the question what is pegging, you know what it means and now you're ready to try something kinky and new! Now you know the meaning of pegging, what it feels like, and why it's common. Now it's your turn to enjoy the best, most romantic, most intimate sex of your life.



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Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Not in a relationship? Her other focus is teaching women how to properly handle the “little person in the canoe” to experience the best orgasms ever, no partner required! Her creative and innovative tips, techniques and advice is on par with a certified sex therapist or Sexologist, but with an extra advantage from her knowledge of the adult toy business.

View all articles published by Mayla Green exclusively for The Adult Toy Shop sex blog. Mayla Green's Linkedin profile highlights her professional background, experience and training.

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