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What is the Meaning of Pegging Sex | Pegging Definition

What is the Meaning of Pegging Sex | Pegging Definition

Last Updated on November 1, 2021

I'm assuming you're here because of your curiosity about a strange & kinky yet intimate & passionate popular sex act for couples that is taking place behind closed bedroom doors across America. Do you know the pegging meaning? Curious why men & women REALLY like it?

What is pegging sex? The anal pegging definition is rather simple, but there is more to it than simply typing in “define pegging” into your favorite search engine and reading a quick definition for a complete understanding of the concept.

Enjoying it encompasses a wealth of emotion and a deep sense of sharing. It borders along gay sex practices, but it is clearly not. Women pegging men is the hottest trend for heterosexual couples. Married couples are trying it to shake up typical old fashioned gender roles in the bedroom and improve sexual pleasure in a new, trendy way.

It is taking on a whole new meaning to the relationship. With that being said, you'll understand why the pegging meaning and definition reaches far beyond a simple description, it is a dramatic activity for men and women who want to deepen their relationship and explore the further reaches of human sexuality.

It is fun, yet pushes erotic boundaries. Pegging him feels good for both men and women for different reasons. Today we'll explore everything you've ever wanted to know about what does pegging mean along with benefits, how common it really is and other common FAQ's beginners ask.

Pegging Meaning

Pegging means a woman who anally penetrates a man while wearing a strap on.

The official term was coined by famous sex educator Dan Savage's column “Savage Love” nearly two decades ago. Before then, anal play for men was still considered something strictly for gays and strap ons for sale at sex shops were marketed to either lesbians or men with ED so they can make love to their wife.

But then gradually, pegging started to enter the mainstream. Even major lifestyle & cultural publications such as NOW Magazine held interviews with straight men about pegging. Dan Savage answered hundreds of questions in his weekly column from men and women interested in trying it. The term was referenced in an episode of TV show Weeds in 2006.

The sudden rise in popularity however should be attributed to and again in 2015 on an episode of Broad City, an American television sitcom. In this episode Abbi is asked by her crush Jeremy to peg him. She freaks out at first and calls her friend Ilana for advice, then ultimately puts on the strap-on dildo and penetrates Jeremy. 

What is Pegging Sexually?

Pegging sex requires a woman to wear a strap on with a small attachment. She positions herself behind him (or in an of these pegging positions for easy anal penetration) and inserts the attachment into his anus, thrusting gently in & out in the same rhythmical repetitive motions of vaginal sexual intercourse.

You'll need a few things before you can try pegging sex for the first time:

  1. Pegging Strap On – This is different than a regular strap on because the dildo is tiny so it does not hurt him. The attachments are often curved for prostate stimulation during sex.
  2. Anal Lube – Yes its true that you can use any personal lubricant, but anal lube is best because it is thicker and more viscous. It is less runny and easier to apply inside his anus.
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What's the Difference Between Pegging and Anal?

We've learned by now that anal sex and pegging sex penetrate the same entry point on the body. The difference between the two is concerning the method of said penetration. Anal sex involves insertion into the rectum by the partners penis.

The definition of anal can be extended and loosened a little to include use of butt plugs or anal toys too, but technically, if it is anal sex, penetration is done by the partner's penis, not a sex toy.

The real pegging definition, on the other hand, means butt insertion by a strap on dildo or a prostate toy attached to the strap on harness. The strap on is always worn by a woman who anally penetrates a man.

Is Pegging Gay?

If a man enjoys anal pegging sex, is it gay? If he is anally penetrated by a woman, then no, it is not gay. If he is anally penetrated by another man, then pegging is gay. The most important point to note however, is that only a woman can peg a man.

Two gay men cannot peg. This is just called strap on sex. The true pegging meaning is strictly a heterosexual sex act, it is not gay. So if you ask “is pegging gay”, the answer will always be “no”.

Charlie Glickman is a sexuality educator, writer, blogger, workshop teacher, and university professor. He is certified as a sexuality educator by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors & Therapists. The following is a quote from Mr Glickman about myth of pegging:

"The idea that penetration is an act of dominance is almost certainly tied in to sexism and the notion that the woman's role is inferior. Plenty of men have absorbed these ideas at a subconscious level. Even if a man doesn't think it is an act of dominance when he penetrates his (male or female) partner, he may still hesitate to switch roles because he is afraid that it will mean losing his masculinity if he takes a turn catching instead of pitching." ~ Charlie Glickman

How Common is Pegging?

Pegging is common. In my decade working as a sex educator and coach for married couples, I've seen a massive surge in its popularity, especially within the last couple of years. Why now?

Most men are well aware that the anus is the site of highly concentrated nerve endings and prostate stimulation alone can produce an orgasm. Bringing his lover into the mix to share in this immense sexual pleasure & prostate stimulation is simply a new way for him to expand sexual pleasure, eventually improving the sex life for both partners.

I'll let you in on a little secret: Guys have been buying dildos for men for decades and using them alone. Dudes know fully well how good back door stimulation feels, and they are using them mostly during masturbation. They are just not as shy about it anymore.

“We are at an interesting point in history where gender roles are blurred. Now that prostate and anal stimulation is becoming an accepted practice by heterosexual men, anal sex dynamics are shifting. It is no longer about dominance and gender roles, but purely about receiving sexual pleasure during lovemaking.” ~ Mayla Green
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Is Pegging Normal?

Yes, pegging is normal. Let's get scientific for a second and think about our gender roles when it comes to anal sex dynamics:

“Some participants spoke of the receptive partner as possessing effeminate characteristics, linking the preference for anal receptivity to the hegemonic feminine personality traits assigned to heterosexual women by traditional gender roles (i.e., the vaginally receptive partner). Yet when these participants outlined the power distribution associated with sexual roles during anal sex, it did not always mirror those assumed by heterosexual gender roles.”

To summarize this government publication in layman's terms, men don't associate penetration with power as they did in the past. It's a good evolution that opens the door to a whole world of newly acceptable sex practices that are both fun and interesting. Pegging is normal for couples who want to spice up the sex life in a new way.

What Does Pegging Feel Like?

There are sensitive nerves endings within the anus & rectum. The prostate gland is the holy grail of male sexual pleasure. Gentle & slow anal penetration stimulates these nerve endings and creates immense sexual pleasure, awakening the orgasmic potential of the area known as the “male G Spot”, or P Spot.

Prostate stimulation is the source of gigantic, jaw-dropping orgasms, and the theory is that anal pegging touches the prostate. Not all back door accessories for him offer prostate stimulation, and the proper sexual position makes all the difference to whether he'll have a P Spot orgasm or not. The best pegging toys are great for his P Spot.

The gentle sliding in & out of a thin, small toy in the anus matches perfectly with the rhythm of masturbation and sex. It's like an enhancement from behind. It's no secret that rectal stimulation enhances male orgasms, and this addition to sex is certainly worthy of its trendy status in bedroom right now.

Let's Ask a Married Man: What Does Pegging Feel Like?

Pegging doesn't feel much different compared to using a prostate toy, but with the interactive involvement of my wife, it adds an unexpected level of intimacy and connected feeling that only is possible with perfect anal pegging sex.

It's unlike any other mutual sexual experience mostly due to the emotional aspect. We share a naughty, kinky secret and it's rather empowering to both of us to share this activity. I was afraid I’d feel differently afterward, but that didn't happen. I’ve asked myself if I feel less masculine by doing it, and the answer is no.” ~ Anonymous Husband

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Do Women Like Pegging Sex?

For women, the pleasure is psychological, emotional and even spiritual. It brings a whole new dimension of sexual exploration that she probably never even knew existed. Women like pegging him because it feels good in the mind, and is a deeply intimate act to share with her lover.

An article in Vogue magazine interviewed women about pegging, and here is one of my favorite quotes from an anonymous contributor named “Claire” that explains it from her side:

“The person has to be very trusting of you. You have to listen to their physical cues and gauge if they’re having pleasure or if you’re hurting them. You have a lot of control, and that became very sexy to me. Before Jim, I’d always thought of myself as submissive, but through that experience I accessed a totally different side of myself.” ~ Anonymous responder, Claire

Why Do Men Like Pegging Sex?

Charlie Glickman commented on the rise in popularity of men who like pegging:

"More younger men are curious about it than in previous years, perhaps because of less homophobia and perhaps because there's more discussion of male sexual pleasure, rather than performance. But other younger men often have more resistance because they haven't yet shed their ideas around masculinity."

In general, men are probably "more willing to explore (prostate) pleasure at 50 than they might have been at 25. Older men generally have more experience with ‘don't believe everything you think' so although they're more likely to have hurdles to overcome, they have more practice with it."

Hopefully today I've inspired you to try something kinky and new. It's a wildly popular trend for good reason! It's FUN and DIFFERENT. The perfect way to rejuvenate a dull love life and change what you know about the joys of lovemaking in the modern world.



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Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Not in a relationship? Her other focus is teaching women how to properly handle the “little person in the canoe” to experience the best orgasms ever, no partner required! Her creative and innovative tips, techniques and advice is on par with a certified sex therapist or Sexologist, but with an extra advantage from her knowledge of the adult toy business.

View all articles published by Mayla Green exclusively for The Adult Toy Shop sex blog and Mayla Green's Pressfolio to follow her newest & trending content published online.

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