Male Masturbation Techniques
Almost everybody does it, and the folks who say they don’t are probably lying. Of course, we’re talking about male masturbation. That’s why free porn site ‘PornHub’ had 33.5 billion visits in 2018, with many of these visitors being men in search of jerk off material.
This is a good thing, because masturbation is great. Men who masturbate enjoy improved state of mind and mental health, can improve their sexual technique, and reduce the risk of certain health conditions. It also feels amazing.
Now the bad news. In spite of masturbation being such a wonderful thing, men regularly beat their meat into submission using tired techniques. Doesn’t your dick deserve better?
Of course it does! Masturbation should do more than bring you to orgasm. It should be an intensely pleasurable experience. So, how do you improve your masturbation game? All you need is a willingness to explore your body, and an open mind.
The Health Benefits of Male Masturbation
If you feel guilty about pleasuring yourself, there’s no need. Masturbation is a natural, healthy habit. It’s not just fun, it is beneficial. Check out these male masturbation facts:
- Ejaculation may reduce the risk of prostate cancer.
- Men who masturbate can release sexual tension without worrying about pleasing a partner.
- Masturbation is the safest sex of all.
- It’s a stress reliever, and can temporarily lower your blood pressure.
- Male masturbation is a mental health booster. It causes your body to release serotonin and dopamine.
Men who spend time masturbating can also train themselves to perform better when having sex with a partner. We’ll cover some of those techniques below. If you want to masturbate with male sex toys, jump ahead to the how to use sex toys video series.
Masturbation Must Haves
You need two things to masturbate. These are lube and a place to do the deed. Both of these are very important.
The Best Lube For Jacking Off
If you use the wrong lube, or skip it altogether, you’re in for a world of hurt. In fact, if you’ve struggled with a sore, red member after masturbating, there’s a good chance your lubricant is to blame. In fact, if you have the right lube, you should be able to engage in some pretty intense fapping without much carnage. Check out my blog entry on how to use lubricant for the first time to make sure you do it properly.
If you’re super horny and ready to bust, you might be tempted to grab a jar or tube of anything that feels remotely slick. Don’t do that. The wrong lube can really cause problems. Avoid masturbating with any of the following:
- Soap or Shampoo
- Baby Oil
- Petroleum Jelly
- Hand Sanitizer (Ouch!)
- Muscle Creams
- Cheap Lubes or Miracle Lubes From Sketchy Sources
What’s the deal with that last point? There are many sketchy companies in the sex products business. Be wary of super cheap lubes that may not be body safe. You should also be cautious of any product that promises to make you longer, stronger, or more virulent. The other lubes can cause irritation, friction, or just leave a gross residue.
So, what should you use to jerk off? Well, any lube intended for sexual purposes is great. If you find it in the condom aisle, it’s likely perfectly fine for you. If you have some coconut oil at home, you can try that as well. Experiment to see what works best for you. Just remember that the lube you choose for masturbating may not be right for sex with a partner. Choose an organic lube that isn’t oil based for that.
The Basics: Manual Masturbation Techniques to Try
The best place to start is with some basic techniques. All you’ll need for these are your hands, some lube, and a bit of privacy. Let’s get started.
Variations on The Classic One-Handed Jerk
This is likely the most common technique that men use. It’s about as intuitive as you can get. Simply grab your erect penis with your dominant hand and begin stroking. Try wearing a cock sleeve while you do this to improve pleasure. It’s essentially a hand-job you give yourself. There’s nothing wrong with a classic, but give some of these variations a try.
- Experiment with your grip strength. You may find that a looser grip leads to a longer, more relaxed session. You might also be surprised to find that you enjoy a tighter grip than you imagined.
- Focus on the head of your penis. Lube up well, and stroke the head using forward strokes with your head. Incorporate slight circles. This will give you a very intense experience as the head of your penis is quite sensitive.
- Don’t forget the boys. Jack off like you normally would with one hand. Use the other to rub, massage, even gently pull on your testicles. You can also reach down a bit further to press on and rub your taint.
- Try different speeds. A fast and furious masturbation session can lead to one of those super intense orgasms that brings a head rush as you ejaculate. Going slowly can be a real exercise in self-discipline as you resist the temptation to go harder and faster the closer you get to cumming. Still, it’s a great way to enjoy a nice long session, and to really appreciate the release at the end.
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Trying Things With Two Hands
It’s hard to believe, but a simple change like masturbating with two hands really makes a big difference. You’ll cover more of penis, and increase the sensations that you experience.
There are a couple of ways to do this. Start by weaving your fingers together as if you are praying, with your cock between your two hands. Move your hands up and down the shaft, and over the head. Keep going, trying different speeds and intensities. Remember to use plenty of your favorite lube. Cock rings help alot here too, so learn how to wear a cock ring for added benefits during jerking off.
Give Your Arms a Rest
Let’s be honest. When most guys jerk off, their hands and arms do most of the work. That’s where the joke about the firm handshake comes from, after all! But, if you think about it, that motion is a bit counter-intuitive.
What do you do when you have sex? You thrust with your legs and hips! Give that a try while you masturbate. Use your hand or hands to grip your penis, but keep them stationary. Now, use your hips, butt, and legs to thrust in and out as hard and fast as you like.
Using The Okay Sign
This is an interesting variant. Make a ring around your penis with just your thumb and forefinger. It should look like the ‘okay’ sign. Now, try masturbating with just those two fingers sliding up and down the shaft and head of your dick.
If you have any particularly sensitive spots, try shortening your stroke so that you focus the friction and pressure on just that area. This technique is great for building up intensity slowly, and increasing your pleasure over a longer period of time.
The Overhand Grip
Most guys jack off by gripping their shaft from underneath. Try something a little different. Grip from the top so that your palm and four fingers are on the top of your shaft, and your thumb is on the underside. This may feel a bit awkward at first, but it’s worthwhile. Experiment with applying and removing pressure with your thumb as you stroke.
Try Prostate And Perineal Stimulation
These methods are great on their own, or used together with other forms of masturbation. If you’ve never explored these options before, you may not know that they can produce some pretty intense sensations.
Your perineum or ‘taint’ is the sensitive area between your testicles and anus. The area responds amazingly well to rubbing and massaging, even firm and sustained pressure.
To stimulate your prostate, you’ll need to lube up and go a bit deeper. If you’re brave enough to try, the resulting orgasm can be absolutely mind-blowing. Just follow some safety rules first. Trim your nails. Use plenty of lubricant. Wash your hands before and after. Don’t be ashamed to start small. Your pinky is a good choice. You can work up from there. Take it slow, breathe deeply, and relax.
Work your finger in and rub the abdominal side of the inner wall. You should find a slight bump, about two inches in. That’s your prostate. Rub and massage it from the inside. You can do this as you jerk off, or for a bit of pre gaming. Some men even find that they can make themselves cum with prostate stimulation alone.
Try Different Positions
If you find yourself masturbating in the position, that gets boring fast. Give something new a try. By changing positions, you can experience new sensations. This is also a great way to make your best fantasies seem more realistic. Maybe you fantasize about making love to a hot actress from behind. Kneel as you masturbate and thrust into your hand. Play the fantasy in your head as you go.
Masturbating With Sex Toys
Sex toy marketing may focus more on women than men, but don’t be fooled. There are plenty of sex toys just for men. Keep reading to learn more about using these toys to enhance your masturbation experience, or visit the other entry about different pocket pussy techniques you can try to make them feel better and more realistic.
The term fleshlight is used to describe a series of toys made by the company of the same name. Of course, many people simply use the term to describe any cylindrical sleeve used for masturbation purposes, both purchased and home-made.
The construction is similar. It’s a tube, similar to a flashlight casing that holds an inner sleeve. The sleeve can be textured to feel like a vagina, anus, or something else entirely. The idea is to simulate a realistic sexual experience. You can even buy fleshlight sleeves that are made to look and feel like the body parts of your favourite pornstars, or go direct with the actual pornstar pocket pussy. You can buy a fleshlight that has a catch cup at the end, or an open-ended model, whatever you prefer.
There are other male male masturbators as well. These include:
- Ring Masturbators
- Vibrating Sleeves
- Head Stimulators
- Prostate Toys
- Anal Beads
- Male Dildos
To enhance your experience with toys, you can add some accessories. Fleshlights can be paired with shower mounts so that you can enjoy a hands free experience. They also make sleeve warmers for an intensely realistic experience. You can also purchase fleshlight launchers that allow you to lay back and enjoy while the device does the stroking and gyrating for you. You may see these devices sold as blowjob machines.
Getting Smart About Masturbation
Smart devices have enhanced our lives significantly. Masturbation is now a part of this. In fact, if you have a Bluetooth enabled smartphone, and Wi-Fi, you should prepare for some amazing solo sexual experiences.
This is male masturbator, usually a sleeve or stroker, that can be connected to your smartphone. It can also be connected to your lover’s smartphone. Basically, the smartphone acts as a remote control allowing you to control the speed and intensity of masturbation, or you can pass the control over to your partner and allow them to take over. Because these devices work with Wi-Fi, they can even be used long distance.
Fleshlight iPhone Case
Yes, the same company that makes the original series of Fleshlights has released an iPhone case that holds a masturbation sleeve. Known as the LaunchPad, you can use it to watch porn as you masturbate. Imagine thrusting as you look down at your favourite star getting down and dirty.
If you have a virtual reality headset, and want to explore new fantasies as you masturbate, you certainly have plenty of options. The adult industry has embraced virtual reality, and you can access plenty of videos. In fact, there are several channels that have been created just for providing VR content for masturbating.
Sex Dolls And Mounts
If you don’t mind investing some cash into your masturbation habits, consider buying a sex doll or mount/liberator. These can provide you with the most realistic sexual experiences of all.
Sex Dolls And Accessories
For some men, masturbation just isn’t satisfying enough. It simply doesn’t hold a candle to the real thing. For them, a sex doll could be the perfect solution. Today’s dolls are made from absolutely realistic feeling materials, and constructed by artists and engineers. They really do look and feel like the real thing. Even better, they have all the right body parts for you to pleasure yourself, and your ‘partner’ is always up for some action.
If you have a very specific fantasy, and some extra cash, you can even have a doll custom-made. This way, your doll for masturbation will have the facial features, hair style, and body type that is perfect for you.
If you don’t have the cash or space for full-sized doll, try masturbating with a sex doll accessory. You can buy breasts, vaginas, torsos, and tushies for your pleasure. There are even vajankles! These are masturbation sleeves created specifically for men with a foot fetish.
Mounts or Liberators
Like sex dolls, you’ll need to have some spare cash and a bit of room to enjoy these. Mounts, also known as liberators are nifty pieces of sex furniture that can hold masturbation sleeves or pocket pussies. Using these is pretty self-explanatory. You simply position yourself however you like, insert your member, and start thrusting. This is a great way to masturbate in ways that allow you to simulate different sexual positions.
Advanced Masturbation Techniques
Are you ready to take jacking off to another level? Maybe you’re interested in improving your performance. Maybe you’ve heard of techniques like ejaculation free orgasm. The techniques here are for enhancing your masturbation experiences, and using masturbation to enhance your performance with your partner.
This is a start/stop method that allows you to increase the length of your masturbation sessions. It has the added bonus of training you to last longer during sex with a partner. The technique is pretty simple. You masturbate just until you are about to cum. Then you stop. In a few moments, start again. This time go a bit faster. Again, stop before you ejaculate. Repeat the cycle as many times as you wish. Some people will use this technique for entire sessions without ejaculating at all.
Ejaculation Free Masturbation
While nothing has really been proven scientifically, there are many men who believe there are benefits to reducing the number of times that they ejaculate. In fact, you can check Reddit and other sites out for information on ‘semen retention’.
If you decide that this is something you want to try, you can do that while still enjoying masturbation. One way to do this is to exercise your PC muscle by doing Kegel Exercises For Men. Once your PC muscle is strong enough, you can flex it during orgasm to stop the flow of semen.
Some men also find that they can stave off ejaculation if they apply intense pressure to their perineum just as they are about to ejaculate. This technique physically blocks the release of semen through the penis.
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Tantric sex focuses on self exploration. The idea behind it is to extend the sexual experience along with the pleasure you experience. You explore yourself, and immerse yourself in the pleasure that you experience during sex.
What better way to practice this than through masturbation. After all, with no partner to worry about, you simply spend your masturbation session focused on the pleasurable sensations that you feel.
You start with a comfortable space, and enough time to enjoy the experience. Next, start exploring your body’s erogenous zones. Don’t go straight for your penis. Instead, stimulate your nipples, rub your inner thighs, and gently massage your scrotum. When you finally stroke your penis, use one hand to pull your testicles away from your body. This will delay orgasm.
Of course, Tantra is as cerebral as it is physical. As you practice, focus on all the sensations that you feel throughout your body. You may feel tingling, or an enhanced sense of energy. Some people combine the principles of Tantra with ejaculation free masturbation.
How can you achieve more intense orgasms when you masturbate? It may seem counterintuitive, but the answer may be in not masturbating at all.
No, you don’t need to give up the practice permanently, just a few days will do. If you can bear it, try going a couple of days without ejaculating. When you finally give in, you’ll find that your orgasms are much more intense and pleasurable.
Masturbation doesn’t have to be a solo pursuit. Give mutual masturbation a try! It’s a great way for you and your partner to learn about one another. You can also use mutual masturbation as a way to get close to one another without the added pressure of sexual performance. Finally, mutual masturbation can be a way for couples with differing levels of sexual desire to enjoy time in the bedroom with one another.
Try these techniques to make mutual masturbation pleasurable:
- Masturbate facing away from each other with your backs touching.
- Masturbate for your partner while they read to you from an erotic text. Then, return the favour.
- Have your partner sit behind you while you lean back into them, back to chest. Masturbate as they hold you securely against them.
- Perform oral sex on your partner as you masturbate. Have them do the same to you.
- Set up a video chat session for some long distance, mutual masturbation. You can incorporate a Wi-Fi capable masturbation toy to make things more interesting.
- Masturbate with your partner, and use the edging and Tantric masturbation techniques above to see who can hold back the longest.
By masturbating on a regular basis, you can improve your health and sexual performance. Masturbation is also free entertainment. The problem is that the same, tired masturbation techniques are boring and unfulfilling. It’s time to take things to the next level. You can get started by giving some of the methods above a try. Your satisfaction is worth the effort!
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