Best Sex Whips, Paddles & Spanking Sex Toys (2023)
Last Updated on September 7, 2023
When it comes to kinks, the notion of spanking with a sex whip can be a bit complex. On one hand, the notion of being spanked can be really sexy. On the other hand, a BDSM whip can be a little scary. Trust is huge for any kink that includes the potential to inflict pain or injury.
Let’s be honest. There’s also another ‘other hand’. There’s something humorous about the idea of being spanked or paddled. Think of any movie you’ve ever watched that poked fun at BDSM. Chances are, spanking sex toys were the center of the gag.
In spite of all this ambivalence, paddling and other forms of corporal punishment are big turn-ons to many people. If you’ve decided to pursue your pleasure this way, good for you! To maximize your enjoyment, you’ll want to pick out the best paddle, whip, or tickler for your desires.
What Are The Different Bondage Spanking Toys
When you’re ready to purchase your first first BDSM sex toy for impact play, you may be a bit overwhelmed. You have dozens of choices. That’s because there are so many sensations you can experience during spanking play.
Different sex toys can enhance these experiences. Before you make any decisions, here are some of the Best Bondage Toys, Spanking Paddles & Whips.
Paddles And Slappers
Paddles and slappers provide wide coverage and a ‘slapping’ sting. A paddle may be made of wood, leather, or other material. A spanking paddle is flat with a handle, and a wider spanking surface.
Slappers are more flexible. These sex whips are usually made from nylon and leather. A slapper is doubled over so the material slaps against itself.
The intensity varies according to the material of the paddle, and how it’s used. A light-weight balsa wood paddle will create a more playful experience. A heavy leather-bound slapper will result in more intense pain. If you want to move up from hand spankings to something kinkier, a paddle or slapper could be perfect for you.
Sex Whips
A whip is a long strip of braided leather with a handle. Let’s be very clear. Whips are an advanced BDSM toy. If you choose this, please practice, and be sure you can handle your whip properly. You can draw blood or leave a scar. That said, people who enjoy whipping/being whipped enjoy the intensity of the experience.
People who enjoy the idea of adding a bit more pain without the potential danger of a whip should consider a flogger. These produce intense pain, but allow a bit more control. Again, caution is advised. Read through my BDSM tips for beginners for safety advice before getting kinky.
Feather Ticklers
If you are turned on by a lack of control, but not pain take a look at feather ticklers. Instead of giving themselves up to being spanked or flogged, the sub allows themselves to be teased and titillated with a feather tickler. That’s a cluster of feathers attached to a wooden or leather handle.
Best Sex Toys For Spanking
So, which toys are best sex whips for you? Ideally, you’ll select one that produces the experience you and your partner want to enjoy. Remember that durability and aesthetics are important too. Great news! The products listed below are made of quality materials, and well-loved by the customers who’ve given them a try.
Best Sex Whips
Are you interested in giving or receiving a deliciously painful experience? If so, these whips, paddles, and floggers will be right up your alley. Goes right along with your BDSM gear, in fact no collection is complete without it.
Slapper BDSM Crop Paddle
Slapper BDSM Crop Paddle is a great, back to basics toy. Think of this as a dual-sided paddle. It’s easy to use. It’s easy to control the level of intensity. Best of all, the sound it makes is absolutely delicious. The slapper is an amazing introductory toy for less than 20 dollars.
Key Features:
- Dual layers produce an extra loud crack when paddled
- Imitation leather without animal products
- Slim and narrow form has a stinging feel during impact play
- Short sex whip is easy to use at close range
Specifications:
| Total Length | 10 inches |
| Material | Imitation leather |
50 Shades of Grey Sex Whip
50 Shades of Grey Sex Whip is a silver-grey flogger inspired by the popular novel, 50 Shades of Grey. The metallic grey here is aesthetically pleasing. Enjoy the view as it captures the light in the room. The Please Sir flogger produces intense pain, and wonderful welts.
Key Features:
- From the official 50 Shades of Grey sex toy collection
- Imitation leather without animal products
- Silver throngs add an air of elegance to impact play
- Long tassles can be used as an erotic tickler
Specifications:
| Total Length | 15 inches |
| Material | Imitation leather |
Heart Flapper Sex Whip
Heart Flapper Sex Whip is a riding-crop style whip. It has a long handle, flexible stem, and a faux leather heart at the end. Yes, if you spank your partner hard enough, this will leave a heart-shaped mark on their skin. The Heart Flapper Whip is a fun toy that costs less than 15 dollars.
Key Features:
- Our most budget friendly sex whip for sale
- Heart shaped tip leaves a matching mark on the butt
- Extra long handle for the true dominatrix
- Ribbed rubber handle is easy to hold
Specifications:
| Total Length | 18 inches |
| Material | Imitation leather paddle, metal rivet |
Stout Riding Crop Sex Toy
Stout Riding Crop Sex Toy is similar to one you'd see in equestrian use, but since this version is short, it is made for people. The stout handle is ideal for putting your sub in their place when in close range, minimal recoil is needed to deliver a swift and stiff spanking, in fact, you can practically be face to face while divvying out your punishment.
Key Features:
- Vinyl riding crop pad delivers a swift paddling
- Short plastic handle for easy use in close range
- Reinforced handle enhances durability
- One of the cheapest sex whips available online
Specifications:
| Total Length | 17 inches |
| Material | Vinyl whip, plastic handle, rubber handle |
Best Ticklers
Don’t underestimate the amount of tortuous, sexual pleasure you can inflict with a simple, feather tickler. These go great with an Under the Bed Restraint System because you know you won't have to worry about inflicting pain, the punishment is a tickle which is highly erotic in my opinion!
Feather Tickler BDSM Crop
Feather Tickler BDSM Crop is a feathered slapper that combines pain with tickling pleasure. One end of the toy is a soft, feathered tickled. The other is made for striking. This is perfect for building up intensity during kink sessions.
Key Features:
- Dual sided sex toy for spanking and tickling
- White stitched artificial leather sex whip
- Black and red feathers for sexual teasing
- Blindfold your lover and they won't know what to expect
Specifications:
| Total Length | 20 inches |
| Material | Faux leather crop, feather, plastic wand |
Flogger Sex Whip & Tickler
Flogger Sex Whip & Tickler is a dual ended BDSM sex toy that produces pleasure and pain all within one single flick of your wrist. One side has a ball of features with a few longer ones sticking out for erotic sensory play. The other end has silicone tassels that whip with stinging force. Blindfold your lover and they won't know what to expect!
Key Features:
- Dual sided bondage tickler and silicone sex whip
- Swaying red silicone tassles are very durable and produce a sting
- Rounded feather ball is ideal for sexual arousal during BDSM play
- One of the best sex whips for beginners
Specifications:
| Total Length | 19 inches |
| Material | Silicone whip, feather tickler, plastic handle |
Red Rope BDSM Flogger Whip
Red Rope BDSM Flogger Whip is made of several braided ropes hanging from the vinyl wrapped handle above. The ends of the ropes are purposefully frayed so that you can use it as a tickler to lightly brush over your lovers skin. It can be used as a feather tickler or punishing slapper sex toy all in one flick of the wrist!
Key Features:
- Dual purpose sex toy for flogging and teasing
- One of the best cheap sex whips for sale
- Firew red color heats up the passion and kink factor
- The ropes spread out while flogging for a splayed pattern
Specifications:
| Total Length | 24 inches |
| Material | Vinyl handle, polyester rope |
How to Use Sex Whips Safely
It’s so important to approach spanking play with safety in mind. I published a similar tutorial on how to use a ball gag which contains essential information and instructions you need to know. Start with the following rule in mind: ‘Everyone involved in play has the right to stop at any time, and they may opt to not begin at all.’
Next, everyone should communicate their desires and expectations. This conversation should include talk about safe words, objects that are allowed, level of intensity of the spanking, and aftercare.
Here are some other safety tips to keep in mind before using spanking sex toys:
- Only spank or slap areas that are fleshy.
- Avoid striking the spine, back, stomach, chest, or the head.
- Communicate with the person being spanked about any emerging welts or other injuries. Some people do not want any sort of marks left.
- Choose safe words that cannot be confused attempts at role-play.
- Start gently and increase intensity slowly.
