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Strap Ons For Men | What You Need To Know

Strap Ons For Men | What You Need To Know

Strap ons for men come in a variety of styles to suit various needs. Sure that seems like a blanket description to begin, but continue on to discover the numerous reasons a man would wear a strap on during sex with their partner and the benefits that come along with it. If you'd like to take a step back and get versed in how to use a strap on first, that article has step by step instructions on how to put them on and common FAQs that also apply to male strap on dildos.

You'll also discover some alternatives to the typical hollow strap on dildo for men and the pros and cons of switching up the typical male harness and trying a brand new suggestion that will surely fire up the passion in bed. We have several options that are discreet, small and gentle without making your lover cringe when you open your discreetly mailed package containing a large or thick dildo that scares them away!

Of course if a big fetish fantasy sexual experience is what you're hoping for, then the kinky minds should continue on too because we'll cover all types of the best strap ons for men from the realistic penis, to the dildo with a vibrating shaft and even styles made for double penetration, also known as DP. This type of mens strap on harness delves into the extra kinky realm of sex for guys (who do not have erectile dysfunction) and prefer the darker side of kink play.

Men with erectile dysfunction often choose the hollow strap on for men, but we also like to suggest the unisex harness style that, in our opinion, is better suited to the average couple, especially seniors. Many couples who purchase large hollow male strap ons have a “size queen” lover. What is a “size queen” you may ask? It is a person attracted to partners with huge penises. We'll also explore sex toys to suit that fetish further too!


1. Hollow Strap On for Men

Hollow Strap on for Men
A popular option suitable for men with ED.

First and foremost, the hollow strap on dildo for men is the top choice for guys with erectile dysfunction who are looking to purchase a harness to engage in lovemaking with their partner. In my opinion, the reason the hollow strap on dildo is often what a customer asks about in the case of ED is because they are more widely known and accepted as a sexual aid for couples.

They have a “all business” type of appearance; they are not sold as “dirty sex toys” rather they are bought as accessories to help an aging couple enjoy sexual intercourse. To summarize, they are widely accepted as a suitable sex aid for couples across America.

Why choose a hollow male strap on dildo? They are rigid enough to maintain their shape and no not require an erection to work. They can be worn by men with a flaccid penis and is the most common choice for men with erectile dysfunction. To learn more and find some suggestions on which one you'll like most, view my entry on the best hollow strap ons.

The disadvantage of choosing this style is that the shaft is always thick. On the other hand, if that's exactly what you're after (re: the “size queen”), this is your best choice! If you have normal hard erections, you can still use one of these only instead of entering the opening, you'll position the device over the pubic bone and let it sit higher on your pelvis. Your erection stands high and tall below the device. With this option, you can even engage in DP. (See further below on how this is done).

Why are they so large? Because there must be room inside to support the man's flaccid penis, so the interior measurements have to be big enough for his dick which means the exterior will be significantly wider than a typical male erection. Most are just under 2 inches across, which is big enough to be considered to be well within the "large" size spectrum.

Summary of hollow strap ons for men:

  • Widely accepted as a sex aid for couples
  • Can be used without an erection
  • Large size appeals to experts
  • Thicker than average girths
  • Firm and rigid
  • Simple visual styling
  • Vibrating options available

2. Pegging Strap On for Men

Pegging Strap on for Men
Beginners pegging dildo harness for men.

This is the top selling type of male strap on and the hottest, newest and biggest growing trend within all sex toys for couples. This is the only time, HE is on the other end of the giver/receiver relationship! This is all about anal sex for men. If you are not as well versed in sexual terminology, make sure to learn what is pegging before we continue on.

When guys want to try anal pegging for the first time, they often gravitate towards thin anal trainers, obviously! The pegging strap on category is filled with small, thin and tapered dildo attachments, many even are designed to rub the prostate for an added boost to his orgasms.

This subcategory of male strap ons requires a little imagination to fully realize the potential combination; there are some pre made kits but not that many. If you were to purchase a sex harness only and a harness compatible dildo you can create your own collection to be used for kinky nights of pegging sex.

Alternatively, choose from one of the small attachments on the pegging category page. We've collected small anal toys for men from several different categories and summarized them in one place for easier shopping. Pegging harnesses feature adjustable waist sizes ranging from small to plus size waists; no matter your body type or shape, you can find one that adjusts to your size.

We are one of the premier online sex toy stores for couples looking to purchase pegging strap ons for men. Many of these have vibrating options and some are realistic for fulfilling a gay fantasy, but it's important to note that straight men are also enjoying the erotic pleasures of pegging. It is a practice that is originally intended as a heterosexual couple, but gay couples enjoy it too - although the term “pegging” implies a man and woman duo.

Summary of pegging strap ons for men:

  • He is on the receiving end
  • Thin & small girths best for beginners
  • Customize your own kit
  • Vast range of interchangeable attachments
  • Fastest growing sexual trend for couples
  • Several choices for prostate stimulation
  • Best strap on for men looking to try something new

3. Vibrating Male Strap On Dildo

Vibrating Strap on for Men
Enhance your partners pleasure with a vibrator.

This subcategory can be divided under two separate applications:

The first application is the harness with a vibrating dildo attached to the front. The man does not feel any vibration, this is worn purely for sexual benefit if his partner. It's “giving” in the true sense!

The second application of this term refers to the man being on the receiving end in the form of a vibrating pegging dildo, which we've just explored in its own dedicated subsection above.

The placement of each vibrating motor varies slightly, so in every product description we list where the motor is placed along the shaft and how the vibration is controlled. Most are operated by a separate corded battery pack with a speed dial on the side.

Before you assume that these cords “get in the way” during sex play, it's important to note that the controller gets discreetly tucked away into the harness belt and does not impede your movements! We actually prefer corded vibrating strap on dildos for men anyway because they are more powerful.

The vibrating male strap on dildo also provides an extra boost of sexual pleasure because he'll have a first person view watching his partner moan and groan in pleasure while the vibrator takes over. It's a fun boost to regular sex play – a real penis doesn't vibrate so by him wearing a vibrating dildo harness, it spices things up. This is a common sex toy for couples who have been married for a long time and simply want to add something new into their bedroom routine.

Pro Pleasure Tip: Keep the power to a minimum during warm up, then spin the dial and generate mega power right at the onset of orgasm. For the man to take control of his partners' orgasm intensity is a highly erotic experience for couples.

Out of all styles of male strap ons, this subcategory has the most options to choose from. There are some that are curved for prostate or G Spot stimulation, others that are realistic looking and even a few hollow dildos complete the mix.

Summary of vibrating strap ons for men:

  • Combines “vibrator” and “strap on” together
  • Extra stimulation during intercourse
  • Vast range of sizes & textures to choose from
  • Top choice for long married couples
  • Take control of your partners orgasm
  • Option for G Spot or prostate stimulation

4. Realistic Strap On Penis for Men

Realistic Strap on for Men
The highest quality realistic dildo harness.

Couples often search for a realistic male strap on penis because they want to replicate the feel of sexual intercourse but don't want anything too kinky. Men who have soft erections or even full blown ED choose the realistic strap on dildo. The only feature that matters is that the harness is “unisex”.

Why? A unisex harness wraps around the legs and the waist leaving the entire crotch open and unimpeded. His dick and testicles hang freely below. This is our alternative suggestion for men who do not want a large hollow dildo, but want a sex harness to help with erectile issues.

When considering the unisex realistic strapon dildo harness, the couple has the widest range of sizes to choose from. Some are very soft and flexible. This variety can even be customized completely. The man wears any of the suitable sex harnesses and the couple shops for harness compatible dildos together.

Of course you can simply choose any of the realistic feeling or life like looking strap on dildo kits that are available online to purchase if you don't want to build your own. There is a tremendous assortment of features that are made available such as vibrating, a soft life sized realistic penis, and all sizes from tiny to massive.

This is the best strap on for men who want to customize their pleasure and enjoy life like feeling sex despite having as semi erect penis or fully flaccid dick. Whatever you medical concerns are, choosing the unisex harness will assure you a comfortable and fulfilled sex life that satisfies both you and your lover.

How to choose a unisex harness that fits a man? In the strap on dildos category, click the filters option (or click “shop by” on your mobile device) and select “unisex” and the options that are crotchless or have a size adjustable nylon waist band or elastic belt will be displayed. Plus size waist? Choose “yes” under the “plus size harness” option on the filter menu.

Summary of realistic strap on penis for men:

  • Extensive range of kits to choose from
  • Fully Customizable
  • Can be used with or without an erection
  • Crotchless design is the most comfortable to wear
  • Life like, soft & realistic feeling options
  • Select “unisex” in the strapons category filter menu

5. Double Penetration Male Strap On

DP Strap on for Men
DP harness: the kinkiest of all male strap ons.

The double penetration strap on for men is a sex toy for erotically charged couples who enjoy the finest in kinky sex play. If you have a naughty streak in the bedroom, this style should definitely be at the top of your list of adult toys to buy. The most playful couples believe the DP strap on for men is by far the most fun they've had in bed.

What is a double penetration strap on for men? First we must investigate the term “DP”. It stands for “double penetration”, meaning simultaneous vaginal and anal insertion. It's a common sex practice seen on adult films and video clips. To experience this in real life is makes you feel like you're among the kinkiest of adult film stars.

The male harness includes one dildo that inserts into either the vagina or anus, and a second open ring to support the man's actual penis. The harness itself comes with 2 rings stacked vertically.

The top ring holds the either the dildo or his dick and enters the vagina while the bottom ring holds the other appendage and enters the anus. The 2 rings assure that each appendage stays in place to target both her entry points at the same time for easier penetration and a more comfortable experience for her.

The giver gets a sexy view from above whilst watching her get stuffed (their term, not ours!) while the receiver enjoys the fantasy double penetration sex they've been dreaming of. Make sure to hit the “record” button on your camera before getting into this one, it surely makes a hot movie! (Again their idea, not ours!)

It's important to note that the man must be able to get a full erection to use the DP harness because you'll be penetrating one of her holes. Make it even MORE exciting by adding on a cock sleeve to your purchase. Wear the sleeve in conjunction with the harness to power up pleasure by making your cock bigger (because of the padding of the sleeve). What's more? It will help to delay ejaculation because cock sleeves remove some of the sensation of intercourse.

Summary of double penetration male strap ons:

  • Extra high kink factor
  • Perfect for women with a DP sex fantasy
  • Suitable for men who can get a full erection
  • Popular for couples who film their own adult home movies
  • Ability to combine dildos for vaginal
  • Ability to add anal probes for anal
  • The wearer can choose vaginal sex or anal sex

6. Strap On for Men With ED

When a penis pump or other ED treatments fail and he can no longer get a full erection, couples often turn to one of the two following options to satisfy their desire for sexual intimacy:

  1. Hollow dildo
  2. Unisex harness

As outlined above, both of these choices will work because neither require a fully erect penis to function. The hollow dildo is as implied, the man inserts his flaccid penis into the interior opening. The unisex harness has an open crotch base that lets his penis and testicles hang below.

Regardless of the male harness style chosen, they are not entirely hands free. There will always be some maneuvering required for vaginal penetration. Once the dildo has been inserted however, the motions of sexual intercourse can be fully replicated. By snugly fitting the harness to your body, you can move freely around the bedroom and easily change sexual positions.

What about strap ons for men who can get a partial erection, but not an erection firm enough for intercourse? Until now, there has never been a harness designed uniquely for this specification. Introducing the brand new Zoro strap on for men featuring a large cutout ergonomically positioned for him to fit the scrotum and testicles through, yet keeping them out of the way while he penetrates his partner with the silicone dildo.


For Seniors and men with ED
Don't let erectile dysfunction affect your love life!

7. Vac U Lock Strap On Harness For Men

One final notable option to consider is Vac U Lock. We can see that couples take their sexual enjoyment seriously because Vac U Lock is one of our best selling brands for couples looking for a sex aid to enjoy lovemaking in the finest way possible. If comfort is of utmost importance, Vac U Lock should be at the top of your list, learn how to use Vac U Lock first to see if its the right choice for your sexual needs.

The Vac U Lock dildo harness system has a full panty style harness that connects at the hips and is fully adjustable according to pant size. Vac U Lock has a vast range of dildos for sale that fit the adapter plug so couples can narrow down their preference and choose an attachment accordingly.

The harness has a cloth lined extended open base with fully hemmed sides to prevent chafing. The crotch opening is large enough that even guys with a fully erect penis can fit through the opening. This allows the couple to enjoy mutual masturbation during sex, adding another level of inmate exploration and sharing.

The best Vac U Lock dildos are the most realistic feeling of all attachments that fit the male strap on harness, it is a luxury brand and has a higher price point compared to other sex toys of this type, but you get what you pay for – the silicone surface feels exactly like real skin.


10 Best Selling Strap Ons for Men

If you're looking for some suggestions on which product to purchase, the following list of 10 best sellers is an excellent place to start. These 10 most popular and top selling strap on dildos that men can wear are listed in no particular order and automatically generated according to a combination sales volume and high customer reviews.



Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Not in a relationship? Her other focus is teaching women how to properly handle the “little person in the canoe” to experience the best orgasms ever, no partner required! Her creative and innovative tips, techniques and advice is on par with a certified sex therapist or Sexologist, but with an extra advantage from her knowledge of the adult toy business.

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