July 28, 2021 Mayla Green

Strap on Dildos 101 | Your Guide to Finding the Best Strap on Dildo

Strap-on sex is the ultimate way for adventurous couples to experiment with something different in the bedroom. If you're curious about the best strap on dildo sex, read on to discover tips techniques and ways to customize your harness and attachment to perfectly match your erotic desires.

Customize? Yes! The advantage of purchasing a penis toy and a strapon harness separately is that you're never restricted by pre-made kits and collections. You are free to choose from a vast list of features such as a big attachment for hardcore fetish fun or small silicone probe for backdoor pegging experimentation.

Pick from more color options not limited to only white, brown and black. Select from several interesting top rated features such as vibrating, double sided and small sizes. Choose popular materials like silicone and/or a dick that looks and feels ultra realistic. Some are hollow for men with erection issues, but also a popular choice for lesbians (“strapless” is the key term tailor made for lesbian partners).

Okay, so this can be confusing to someone who's a total newbie, but don't worry! Your Sexpert at hand, Mayla Green will guide you through the beginner essentials such as whats a strap on, how to choose the best strapon dildo along with some advice on ways to make it truly your own original creation for fantastic experimental and playful sex (the best kind of sex, in my opinion!)

Strap on Dildos Best for Beginners

First timers will always visit the top level category page of strap ons for sale first. Here lies a set of collections and kits that contain both the harness and the dildo attachment together in 1 convenient pack.

Even though this category lists over 60 strap on dildos, the selection is not as vast compared to the category that separately lists the dildo harnesses for sale, (the harness that attaches to the body without a dildo) and the separate subcategory of all dildos that fit a strap on harness.

By looking within these 2 separate subcategories, you can narrow down to the exact size and color that you and you partner want. A quick mathematical calculation will result in thousands of possible combinations instead of the 50 pre-set kits as seen in the top level category.

Now this means 1 of 2 things: Either it will make your decision easy because you can locate a combination featuring your exact specifications, OR it will make it more confusing because there are TOO many options to choose from!

Indecisive? Don't fret. I'm here to guide you through the finest strap on dildos for first timers, so let's take a look at the following products that beginners enjoy most. Keep in mind that these are suggestions both suited to heterosexual and lesbian couples, the strap-ons are unisex meaning both men and women can wear them.

American Whopper Strap on Dildo features a sturdy double stitched nylon strap harness with an extra wide supportive back brace. One of the best fitting examples and excellent for plus size bodies as the maximum waist size is 66 inches, far exceeding the standard of a typical sex harness. Curved realistic looking dick naturally hits the G Spot upon vaginal penetration. Available in 2 penis lengths: 7 inch and 9 inch.

American Strap on Dildo features a harness identical to the previous one, the only difference is the dildo attachment has a straight shaft without balls in comparison to the curved G Spot penis with balls of the aforementioned product. Bendable, rubbery shaft is sturdy enough for vigorous & energetic intercourse.

SX Realistic Strap on Penis has a strapon with silky straps that feel more comfortable against the skin in comparison to the typical nylon straps which can be harsher and feel “scratchy”. The only downside of silk straps is that reviews state the silky fabric can be slippery, so you'll need to to the ends in a knot to prevent it from slipping and loosening during sex.

Rider Plus Size Strap On has a sleek and smooth curved attachment perfect for the female G Spot or male prostate gland. Fire red accents make this one of the most elegant and attractive products of them all. Our best selling option for couples who don't want something that looks realistic and an affordable example of luxury on the cheap.

Pink Stud Strapon Dildo is full of fancy feminine charm. Shimmering heavily veined penis shaft feels as good as it looks, thick black fleece harness is cozy and pretty while the extra long pink nylon waist & thigh straps are fully adjustable in 4 places (at the hips & thighs) for the ideal fit no matter your body shape or size.

Strapless Strap on Dildo is the best strapless strap on dildo for women because of the shape of the double sided dildo probe – the spiraled shape is easier for the vagina to hold in place preventing it from falling out making this very user friendly. Stocky and slippery black shaft has a quiet motor embedded in the very end for a tingling boost of pleasure for the receiver.

Big Strap On Dildo Pleasure

Large and in charge? Command your sexual prowess with a big strap on dildo. Certainly not for the faint of heart, a large or wide girth provides the giver with a fantastic view from above while the receiver enjoys fetish fantasy penetrations. It's the ultimate in kinky sex, and a best seller for couples who enjoy a good stretch and favor a high kink factor to their sex play.

Fantasy Extreme Silicone Dildo is big & scary on purpose! Pure silicone dildo & black straps enhance the visual appeal by offering a “barely there” style of fit, but don't underestimate the strength, reviews are very positive and in the 10 years this product has been for sale, we've never heard of the silicone over stressing and tearing. Thick 2 inch girth is the largest of them all.

X-Tension Large Hollow Dildo has a removable cock connected to a metal O ring. Hollow interior keeps the overall weight down (this would be super heavy is it were filled). Solid plastic support inside cradles a semi-erect penis. Only the top 2 inches is squishy and soft, the rest is solid and covered with soft skin-like padding for intense and heavy duty sex.

Technician Strap on Dildo has a long and large penis attachment. At 9 inches long, this is one of the biggest strap on dildos for sale. Features a crotchless harness that can be worn by both men and women. Plug adapter can accommodate any of the Vac-U-Lock accesories and securely snaps onto the front of the fabric harness.

Big Black Wearable Dildo is exactly as the name implies! An 8 inch long big black strap on dildo with plastic rimmed hollow core makes it suitable for men with ED, but also a popular choice for lesbian partners. A plentiful 2 inch girth makes this of one of the thickest available for sale

Small & Sensual Strap on Dildos

Not everyone wants a huge sex toy. In fact, most couples are looking for something small to replicate the girth and length of a real man's erection. Seniors often enjoy using a strap on penis because in the case of sexual dysfunction, this enables the duo to be playful and have some fun in the bedroom. (After all, this is the most playful & interactive of all adult toys for couples!)

If you are shopping for something small for anal penetration (think the best pegging strap ons) then consider purchasing one from that list because these are the smallest of the small. Some of the suggestions within are barely thinner than finger because they are designed for male anal penetration. Not into pegging? That's okay, all of the choices within can be used for vaginal sex too!

5 Inch Whopper Strap on Kit includes a tiny curved dick that is mainly used for anal pegging sex (and for prostate stimulation). Imitation leather harness looks like something a dominatrix would wear, but since a woman typically wears this harness, it suits the atmosphere of her taking control in the bedroom anyway! 5 inch length and 1 inch girth makes this the smallest strap on penis available for sale.

5 Inch American Strap on Kit is identical to the product above with 1 noticeable difference: The dick is straight without balls instead of curved with balls. It is also slightly larger and a best selling strap on dildo for seniors & menopausal women who want to enjoy lovemaking while maintaining comfort and a reasonable girth for the vagina.

Beginners Small Strap On has a tiny butt plug style attachment and a very basic and thin harness. The straps are heavy duty however adjusting at 4 spots next to the body assuring a sturdy fit. This option is often purchased by curious beginners who don't want anything phallic looking and want to keep it ultra discreet.

Sex & Mischief Pegging Kit is not only used for anal sex, but the tiny silicone probe is suitable for vaginal sex too. Fuzzy lined fabric harness is one of the most comfortable we've seen and the shimmering purple probe is a gorgeous example of how sex toys can be pretty. The probe has a diameter less than 1 inch, it's barely bigger than a finger!

Feel the Buzz with a Vibrating Strap on Penis

Looking for one that vibrates? Check out my list of the highest rated and best vibrating strap ons. This exclusive resource is a complete users guide with suggestions to enhance pleasure by adding a vibrator to your harness. (In summary, it's easy to slide a realistic penis vibrator with a flat or round base through your harness O ring). My top 3 are here however so if you want to quickly pick a ready-to-go vibrating strap on dildo, my personal favorites are as follows:

American Vibrating Strap On is the most powerful vibrating strap on penis we've ever seen! Powered by 3 AA batteries, it has a third more power compared to any other vibrator that attaches to a strapon. Average sized shaft with life like penis detail is sturdy enough for insertion yet bendable enough for comfort. Strap-on is suitable for plus size and XL bodies.

Whopper Vibrating Strap On is just as powerful as the previous, the only difference is the shaft is curved for G Spot stimulation. User reviews report the ease of use because the upwards angle of the penis head is ergonomically favored for vaginal insertion in the pretty much any sexual position. Strapon is suitable for plus size and XL bodies.

Betty's Vibrating Strap on Dildo is a supercharged bulky and freaky looking double strap on dildo vibrator for intense pleasure. It's a popular choice for lesbian partners because the back of the butterfly style probe has soft spikes and a vibrator of its own for external stimulation for the wearer. Sleek elastic waist and thigh band offers a barely there style appearance.

Hollow Strap on Dildos for Men

The hollow strap on dildo is originally made for men with ED, these are stable enough to be used without an erection. They can be used by lesbians too because the core is solid enough for penetrative sex. The core is hollow to give the entire device a more lightweight feel making them the best choice for those who like to move around a lot in the bedroom. (Not into something hollow? Check out other ideas of strap ons for men here.)

Sport Stud Realistic Strap On has thick masculine belt style straps that are fully adjustable and fit up to a 69 inch wast. Gentle 6 inch hollow dildo comfortably supports a flaccid penis.

Sport Realistic Hollow Strap On has a soft fabric crotchless harness that leaves plenty of space for his scrotum to hang below. Gentle 6 inch hollow dildo comfortably supports a flaccid penis.

Medium Hollow Strap On is a firm, long and heavily veined dildo with a padded rubber interior to cradle a flaccid penis. Thick elastic waistband keeps it in place securely over the hips.

Most Luxurious Strap-on Dildos

What exactly makes one worthy of a luxurious designation? Think premium materials like silicone and high end fabrics double stitched comfortable lining or leather harnesses (either genuine leather or imitation leather). The Vac-U-Lock strap on is a hallmark example of a popular ultra premium brand. You get what you pay for, so spending more will get you better quality parts, a more realistic looking attachment and a harness that adjusts in numerous places on the body to assure a solid and sturdy fit no matter how active your sex sessions become.

Vac U Lock Realistic Strap On is the most popular of the high end premium unisex strap on penis with the most realistic attachment. Sensually oft skin feels like a real penis. Available in 2 size options, medium and large.

Double Penetration Strap On is the top rated pure silicone double strap on dildo that allows his erection be part of the action. It works just fine without using as double ended dildo, but it's nice to have the option there.

Available in 2 size options: Slim 7 Inch, and the mightier Thick 8 Inch. Both King Cock strap on size options include an imitation leather harness with metal O rings that leaves a lasting impression in the bedroom.

Ejaculating Strap On is finally here after numerous requests for an ejaculating strap on dildo. Liquid stores in the balls, and squirts when you squeeze them! The first squirting strap on dildo!

Panty Pegging Kit features a panty style brief harness with an elegant looking cut, it looks more like sexy lingerie to add a touch of class to your kinky fun. Includes a small probe for anal or vaginal.

The Budget Friendly Strapon Dildo

There is a fine line between a cheap strap on dildo that's actually “cheap” and a budget friendly one. To see all of the inexpensive and affordable strapon dildos that have good quality parts, check out my best cheap dildos listing, buy your favorite and and slide it through your harness O ring. (PRO TIP: You can also use any dildo with a flat, rounded or suction cup base with your harness ring.)

DIY Strap on Dildo Combinations

If you prefer to be creative and make your own, first buy a dildo holder then select one of these top rated dildos for a strapon. I'll call these all “medium” size since this is what the majority of couples prefer. Sure some are hot sellers that are huge and thick, but considering the average reader is the average person, chances are you won't want anything overly outrageous anyway.

All American Dong is the quintessential dick for a strap on. Mushroom shaped penis head gives that erotic “pop” upon insertion that makes sex oh-so luscious and lovely. Awesome reviews, awesome performance; one of the best suction cup wall dildos available for sale.

7 Inch King Cock Dildo is best for beginners with a smooth tapered head that is very small, a soft flexible shaft that gradually increases in thickness along the way. Incredibly realistic detail is visually appealing.

Sensual Pro 6 Inch Dildo is a small pure silicone dildo with a soft suction cup that easily squeezes into any O ring. Also available in a bigger size, check out the Sensual Pro 8 Inch Dildo.

Basic Realistic Dildo with Balls has a slippery & sleek surface yet is perfectly stable for hot & heavy sex. Nicely sized for a first timer, thick rounded base fits perfectly in any O ring.

American Penis Vibrator is our highest rated and personal favorite vibrating attachment. Incredibly powerful across an average sized realistic penis brings home a big boost of pleasure.

Cleaning & Care

As with any other adult toy that inserts into the body, it's essential to employ proper cleaning techniques to prevent a buildup of bacteria that can lead to infections and all sorts of gross stuff. It's the reality of it – sex toys need to be properly cleaned and stored to keep them not only hygienic and safe, but also to maintain their structure during long periods of storage.

Washing your strapon dildo should be done with each part separate. First of all, follow the instructions on cleaning a dildo here. Secondly, the harness itself should be hand washed only. You can use sex toy cleaner, soap or hand wash laundry detergent.

If the harness has a thong style back, be sure to pay extra attention to the strap that goes between the butt cheeks to wash away yucky butt germs. Pay close attention to the part near the vagina as lubricant and bodily fluids must be completely washed from the fabric. Make sure to rinse well with warm tap water.

Lay the harness flat to dry. If you shove it in the box right away, it could develop a permanent kink or bend in the material as it dries. Leave it out to make sure it dries completely before storing. Putting it away in the box wet can cause mold to develop, so proper air circulation is essential when preparing your strap-on dildo for storage.

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Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Not in a relationship? Her other focus is teaching women how to properly handle the “little person in the canoe” to experience the best orgasms ever, no partner required! Her creative and innovative tips, techniques and advice is on par with a certified sex therapist or Sexologist, but with an extra advantage from her knowledge of the adult toy business.

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