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How to Use a Butterfly Vibrator: Instructions & Users Guide

How to Use a Butterfly Vibrator: Instructions & Users Guide

Last Updated on November 16, 2021

Butterfly vibrators are the ultimate sex toy for nice girls complete with sweet feminine detail and a friendly appearance. Butterfly sex toys are a classy option and a popular first timers selection for those who don't want a phallic looking dildo.

Introduction: Read on for my totally original, one-of-a-kind comprehensive guide covering everything you've ever wanted to know! I'll answer commonly asked questions about butterfly vibrators & sex toys and explore best selling styles such as the Venus kiss, micro vibrating wireless strap on, wearable remote control and videos on how to use different types of butterfly dildo variants.

How Does the Butterfly Sex Toy Work?

It is a very classy sex toy for women with a feminine style to appeal to your nice-girl side. The butterfly sex toy works by providing direct clitoral vibration in combination with a light kissing type of sensation from the floppy, flexible antennae at the top of the head, and/or the fluttering of the wings that are usually folded slightly inwards enough to touch the exterior of the labia. The clitoris touches the round head and provides the direct touch and firmer pressure that feels so amazing.

How to Use the Butterfly Vibrator

In this video demonstration, I show how to properly use a butterfly vibrator and display how it is supposed to look when rested against the pubic bone. You can see the position of the antennae, head and wings in relation to the clit, labia and vagina. After insertion, I adjust the position of the antennae, and you'll have to do the same to make sure it lays exactly as shown in the video instruction.

The alternate option shown in the video demo is to pull the dildo out a few inches and let the tips of the antennae flutter over the clit in more of a “kissing” and fluttering motion compared to direct contact with the head while the shaft is fully inserted into the vagina. You can start out this way to warm yourself up and once you feel aroused, shove it in and enjoy the full-on contact and vibration!


  1. Position the clit on the head.
  2. Rest the antennae over top of the clitoral hood.
  3. Lay the wings over the labia.
  4. Activate the motor and enjoy!
How to use the Butterfly Vibrator

Pro tip: If your butterfly sex toy does not have an insertable shaft, skip the lube! Having too much lubricant on an external vibrator causes it to slip back & forth and “miss the mark”. Use the the butterfly vibrator dry when it's outside of the body. Lubricate the shaft only!

Many butterfly vibrators have a shaft that thrusts up and down. If this is the type you've purchased, view the step by step instructions on how to use a thrusting vibrator here.

How to Use a Butterfly Dildo


  1. Lubricate the top half of the shaft.
  2. Insert the shaft into the vagina.
  3. Position the clit on the head.
  4. Rest the antennae over top of the clitoral hood.
  5. Lay the wings over the labia.
  6. Activate the motor and enjoy!

What is the Venus Butterfly?

There are 2 definitions of Venus Butterfly:

  1. The original strap on butterfly vibrator for women.
  2. A sex technique that involving both oral (tongue) & manual stimulation (fingers).

There are many wearable strap on butterfly vibrators, but the original was named “Venus”. This vibrator sex toy was originally designed to be worn by the woman during sex to provide extra hands-free vibration during lovemaking. These can also be used in public, but beware that if you have tight fitting pants, the bulge from wearing your butterfly sex toy will be obvious to others in public!

How to Put on The Butterfly Vibrator

How to put on the Butterfly Vibrator


  1. Adjust the straps around your waist & thighs.
  2. Pull the straps tight.
  3. Spread the labia and lay the body in between your lips.
  4. Position the nose over the clit.
  5. Position the tail over the vagina.
  6. Activate the motor & enjoy!

How to Wear the Butterfly Strap on During Sex

Women enjoy wearing a Venus butterfly strap on vibrator during sexual intercourse because it's a playful and fun way to add hands-free vibration. They rank highly on my best butterfly vibrators list too!

It also covers a large swatch of your body so if you're hesitant about exposing yourself completely to your lover, it keeps certain parts hidden from view, sort of like wearing erotic lingerie. Didn't have time to shave? Keep your stubble hidden with the wearable vibrator. It's your secret!

The clitoral vibration experienced while wearing the device during lovemaking is subtle and gentle, we describe it as an additional teasing tickle. You'll have to put it on higher on your pelvis than the aforementioned instructions because you'll need to keep the vaginal opening clear for penetration from your partner (or dildo, or sex toy etc.)

In this case, position the body over the clitoris and the tail will rest in between the labia. You may need to adjust the elastic straps higher around your hips than you would if wearing the device by itself.

For extra fun, give your lover the battery pack or remote control and let them control the power settings and/or vibrating functions! If you have a the wireless type, of course this is not possible so it's an extra tip for couples who want to use the wearable massager during lovemaking – buy the corded style or remote control variant for better interactive lovemaking.

In Conclusion

Butterfly sex toys are a fun addition to your vibrator & dildo collection because the purposeful ergonomic design is ideal for female stimulation and the range of features always keep things interesting in the bedroom. The various styles and choices assure that every women can find the right massager that suits her personal desires.

Customers seeking a sexy adult gift for their lover should choose the fun butterfly vibrator because they have a presentable and friendly appearance. The strap on versions are tailor made for couples erotic adventures. Regardless of what you're seeking to make sex and masturbation more fun, I'm positive you'll find the best butterfly dildo here!

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Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Not in a relationship? Her other focus is teaching women how to properly handle the “little person in the canoe” to experience the best orgasms ever, no partner required! Her creative and innovative tips, techniques and advice is on par with a certified sex therapist or Sexologist, but with an extra advantage from her knowledge of the adult toy business.

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