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Butterfly Vibrators | Everything You Need to Know

Butterfly Vibrators | Everything You Need to Know

Butterfly vibrators are the ultimate sex toy for nice girls complete with sweet feminine detail and a friendly appearance. Butterfly sex toys are a classy option and a popular first timers selection for those who don't want a phallic looking dildo.

Introduction: Read on for my totally original, one-of-a-kind comprehensive guide covering everything you've ever wanted to know! I'll answer commonly asked questions about butterfly vibrators & sex toys and explore best selling styles such as the Venus kiss, micro vibrating wireless strap on, wearable remote control and videos on how to use different types of butterfly dildo variants.

What is a Butterfly Vibrator?

Definition: A vibrating sex toy or dildo with a butterfly shaped stimulator designed to stimulate a woman's clitoris.

There are 8 different types of butterfly sex toys each with their own unique specialized function and size dimensions that I'll explore in further detail below. I'll share my video demonstrations and explain step by step instructions on how to use a butterfly vibrator.

Types of Butterfly Vibrators:

Kissing Butterfly Vibrator
The original Butterfly Kiss Vibrator.
  • Butterfly Kiss Vibrator
  • Butterfly Dildo
  • Venus Butterfly Vibrator
  • Wireless Venus Butterfly
  • Butterfly Strap On
  • Vibrating Butterfly Ring
  • Butterfly Clit Vibrator
  • Butterfly Pump

The term “Butterfly Kiss Vibrator” denotes a friendly, lightly fluttering action, and Kiss vibrators are a gentle option that keeps sexual pleasure light and simple. They are a great first timer sex toy because they look clean and classy without over complicated functions and anything too complex. The simple, light pink or purple Butterfly Kiss vibrator is a common way for couples to enjoy mutual clitoral stimulation and get in the mood for sex; a perfect addition to playful foreplay!

Butterfly Dildo
Our most luxurious butterfly dildo.

Expectedly, the butterfly dildo is an type of vibrator for women designed to be inserted into the vagina. This style features 2 components: 1 internal & 1 external stimulator.

The external stimulator, shaped as the namesake of this guide, rests against the clitoris while the shaft is inside the body. These offer a more complete sexual experience because a woman an easily achieve an enjoyable orgasm while both the vagina and clitoris are stimulated and those with spinning or rotating beads in the shaft reviews for this type tend to be more positive.

Butterfly Strap On
Super cute Micro Wireless Venus strap on.

One of the original wearable strap on vibrators for women, the Venus Butterfly Vibrator straps around her thighs while the vibrating device sits over the pubic bone. They can be worn higher during mutual masturbation, fellatio or sexual intercourse, and can also be worn lower to vibrate her clitoris hands-free. Not originally designed for orgasms, rather these are adult toys meant for erotic arousal and intimate teasing.

A modern take on the original mentioned above, the completely hands-free self vibrating wireless Venus butterfly sex toy does not have a separate battery pack or controller. It is self contained with a tiny wireless vibrator that sits inside a pouch within the mini or medium size toy.

The wearer can move freely around without cords in the way, but as a consequence, they do not vibrate as strongly as the corded versions, which tend to have significantly more power.

For couples interactive sex play, the butterfly strap on provides pleasure for both partners. It is not far from the traditional type of strap on dildo but the difference is that the wearer enjoys the same style of arousal as a lady who wear the Venus butterfly.

In fact it is both types of sex toys combined together into one! It is a popular choice for lesbians, but heterosexual couples can wear it too however the shape and design tends to appeal to lesbian couples.

Venus Penis
The wild “Venus Penis” vibrating strap on.

Vibrating penis rings are popular adult toys for couples looking to spice up the love life. The one size fits all stretchy penis ring fits on the base of the man's erection while the tiny critter teases the woman's clit. Vibrating butterfly rings can also be used with a regular dildo, the lady can position it where she wants on the penis shaft to customize how many inches of vaginal penetration she wants before the stimulator makes contact with the clitoris.

The sensation of sucking and pumping creates intense erotic arousal for women, but female clit pumps tend to have a naughty reputation. What if a classy gal wants to enjoy the sensation in a classy way? Enter the butterfly clit pump, a perfect device for creating vacuum suction over the labia, clitoris and vagina. They are tools for erotic arousal and make the lips look puffy and appealing to men, while the puffy blood engorged lips feel more sensitive to your lover's touch.

How Does the Butterfly Sex Toy Work?

The butterfly sex toy works by providing direct clitoral vibration in combination with a light kissing type of sensation from the floppy, flexible antennae at the top of the head, and/or the fluttering of the wings that are usually folded slightly inwards enough to touch the exterior of the labia. The clitoris touches the round head and provides the direct touch and firmer pressure that feels so amazing.

You may ask why this critter has such a remarkable presence in women's adult toys. It's a similar story to the rabbit dildo, the shape of this pretty little insect just naturally happens to have an excellent ergonomic design for female sexual enjoyment!

How to Use the Butterfly Vibrator

In this video demonstration, I show how to properly use a butterfly vibrator and display how it is supposed to look when rested against the pubic bone. You can see the position of the antennae, head and wings in relation to the clit, labia and vagina. After insertion, I adjust the position of the antennae, and you'll have to do the same to make sure it lays exactly as shown in the video instruction.

The alternate option shown in the video demo is to pull the dildo out a few inches and let the tips of the antennae flutter over the clit in more of a “kissing” and fluttering motion compared to direct contact with the head while the shaft is fully inserted into the vagina. You can start out this way to warm yourself up and once you feel aroused, shove it in and enjoy the full-on contact and vibration!


  1. Position the clit on the head.
  2. Rest the antennae over top of the clitoral hood.
  3. Lay the wings over the labia.
  4. Activate the motor and enjoy!
How to use the Butterfly Vibrator

Pro tip: If your butterfly sex toy does not have an insertable shaft, skip the lube! Having too much lubricant on an external vibrator causes it to slip back & forth and “miss the mark”. Use the the butterfly vibrator dry when it's outside of the body. Lubricate the shaft only!

  • If you have the pump or suction style adult toy, learn the step by step instructions on how to use the clit sucker here.
  • Many butterfly vibrators have a shaft that thrusts up and down. If this is the type you've purchased, view the step by step instructions on how to use a thrusting vibrator here.

How to Use a Butterfly Dildo


  1. Lubricate the top half of the shaft.
  2. Insert the shaft into the vagina.
  3. Position the clit on the head.
  4. Rest the antennae over top of the clitoral hood.
  5. Lay the wings over the labia.
  6. Activate the motor and enjoy!

What is the Venus Butterfly?

There are 2 definitions of Venus Butterfly:

  1. The original strap on butterfly vibrator for women.
  2. A sex technique that involving both oral (tongue) & manual stimulation (fingers).

There are many wearable strap on butterfly vibrators, but the original was named “Venus”. This vibrator sex toy was originally designed to be worn by the woman during sex to provide extra hands-free vibration during lovemaking. These can also be used in public, but beware that if you have tight fitting pants, the bulge from wearing your butterfly sex toy will be obvious to others in public!

How to Put on The Butterfly Vibrator

How to put on the Butterfly Vibrator


  1. Adjust the straps around your waist & thighs.
  2. Pull the straps tight.
  3. Spread the labia and lay the body in between your lips.
  4. Position the nose over the clit.
  5. Position the tail over the vagina.
  6. Activate the motor & enjoy!

How to Wear the Butterfly Strap on During Sex

Women enjoy wearing a Venus butterfly strap on vibrator during sexual intercourse because it's a playful and fun way to add hands-free vibration.

It also covers a large swatch of your body so if you're hesitant about exposing yourself completely to your lover, it keeps certain parts hidden from view, sort of like wearing erotic lingerie. Didn't have time to shave? Keep your stubble hidden with the wearable vibrator. It's your secret!

The clitoral vibration experienced while wearing the device during lovemaking is subtle and gentle, we describe it as an additional teasing tickle. You'll have to put it on higher on your pelvis than the aforementioned instructions because you'll need to keep the vaginal opening clear for penetration from your partner (or dildo, or sex toy etc.)

In this case, position the body over the clitoris and the tail will rest in between the labia. You may need to adjust the elastic straps higher around your hips than you would if wearing the device by itself.

For extra fun, give your lover the battery pack or remote control and let them control the power settings and/or vibrating functions! If you have a the wireless type, of course this is not possible so it's an extra tip for couples who want to use the wearable massager during lovemaking – buy the corded style or remote control variant for better interactive lovemaking.

Best Butterfly Vibrators

The following is my personal list of the best butterfly vibrators for women. They comprise of all styles, shapes, sizes & colors and are the perfect starting point to pick your new favorite female sex toy for either orgasmic pleasure, fun with your lover in the bedroom or discreet self arousal as a prelude to masturbation or foreplay.

1. Kissing Butterfly Vibrator

When an adult sex toy connoisseur says “Butterfly Kiss Vibrator”, the Kissing Butterfly is exactly what they envision in their mind. It's one of the best female sex toys for beginners because the insertable portion is short and small while the perpendicular part rests between the labia and buzzes in a sweet, kissing style. A single discreet motor vibrates gently and quietly.

2. Fluttering Butterfly Dildo

Firm silicone butterfly dildo with slim unbending shaft provide brisk and noticeable pleasure. Sure soft toys are nice, but firm toys transfer fierce, strong vibrations directly into your body. The large character presses on your hot spot with more direct pressure compared to any other dildo of this style. Fluttering Butterfly has multi function patterns and pulsing rhythms shared between dual motors.

3. Petite Butterfly Sex Toy

The most adorable, discreet tiny Petite Butterfly is great for smaller women and also a popular first timers choice because it's cheap yet high quality. Extra soft jelly body has soft ticklers for added grip on your skin. For it's size, you'll be impressed with how powerful that little motor buzzes over your lady parts. This tiny butterfly massager is pure bliss in a mini package!

4. Sexy Things Thruster

One of the smallest thrusting vibrators for sale, the Sexy Things Thruster is highly regarded for it's gentle properties for beginners. The cute cartoonish shaft extension is super flexible and has a higher pitch intensity compared to all other massagers with clit stimulators. The up & down dildo is a real treat, surely one to try and a fancy addition to your personal sex toy collection.

5. Evolved Butterfly Vibrator

Jelly soft yet body safe hypoallergenic silicone, Evolved Butterfly Vibrator is our highest quality, moist luxurious model. The motor at the tip of the shaft targets your pleasure sensors perfectly while the flexible shaft always feels cozy and cushy. The external motor completes the package leading to a well rounded orgasm. Multi function patterns keep things interesting!

6. Thrusting Butterfly Vibrator

The amazing Thrusting Butterfly has a beaded shaft that spins on a horizontal axis while the tapered soft penis shaped head moves up & down on a vertical axis. The combination of these motions inside the body lend to a wild sexual experience. The tiny stimulator adds external vibrations while the large rounded head and fluttering antennae feel ticklish.

7. Micro Venus Butterfly

The smallest wireless wearable vibrator for women, it's the best option for beginners too since it's the cheapest option with quiet,discreet operation. If you're curious about trying one for the first time, we highly recommenced picking the Micro Venus Butterfly. It's also the softest and the most comfortable of all strap ons to wear.

8. Venus Butterfly Pump

One of the most unique vibrating vagina suction pumps I've ever seen. Venus Butterfly Pump includes a removable wireless vibrator that screws into the pump and inserts about 1 inch inside the vagina opening. Powerful arousal helps your body to produce natural vaginal lubrication and the suction covers the entire labia and clitoral hood.

9. Original Venus Butterfly

I must make a nod to the first wearable vibrator for women. The Original Venus Butterfly remains unchanged and still provides ladies with hands free arousal decades after its initial release onto sex toy store shelves. Stiff shiny rubber transfers strong vibrations from it's shimmering body into yours and the separate battery control pack produces loads of power!

10. Glittered Venus Butterfly

A take on the original referred above. This one offers an option with feminine sparkle, the Glittered Venus Butterfly has identical size and function as the original, but with a prettier look. It's one of the best choices as an adult gift because it's so friendly looking! A popular choice for ladies to wear during lovemaking.

11. Venus Penis

The innovative Venus Penis is one of the only styles with vaginal insertion, the small penis shaped probe sticking out from the body plugs the vagina and transfers rumbling, exciting vibrations when worn. Bored housewives wear this while doing chores and the combination of stiff internal & external vibrations gets the mind in the mood for sex!

12. Venus Butterfly Strap On

A favorite strap on dildo for lesbian couples; both partners enjoy vibrations at the same time with the Venus Butterfly Strap On. Sturdy dildo flexes only slightly for easier penetration while the stiff ribbed body with firm spikes adds vibration for the wearer. Dual motors are extremely powerful, but note the device is quite heavy so 2 hands are needed for additional support.

13. Butterfly Pump

A good beginners pussy pump with a discreet nice girl look. The Butterfly Pump has dozens of firm ticklers inside the flexible cup that press against the lips during suction, it's an unexpected, invigorating treat. Large body cradles perfectly in your hand so it's super easy to use. Vibration adds the perfect pleasurable bonus!

14. Butterfly Teaser

Not every lady wants an internal vibrator. Sometimes an external teaser is more in order. Behold the stunning Butterfly Teaser, a magical clitoral stimulator adorned in pure luxury and class. The silky smooth yet firm silicone wings are partly closed, ideally formed to caress the labia. Lay the curved toy backwards for vaginal teasing. The motor is extremely powerful for such a small device, and the multi speed vibration is whisper quiet, perfect for a lady who demands discretion.

In Conclusion

Butterfly sex toys are a fun addition to your vibrator & dildo collection because the purposeful ergonomic design is ideal for female stimulation and the range of features always keep things interesting in the bedroom. The various styles and choices assure that every women can find the right massager that suits her personal desires.

Customers seeking a sexy adult gift for their lover should choose the fun butterfly vibrator because they have a presentable and friendly appearance. The strap on versions are tailor made for couples erotic adventures. Regardless of what you're seeking to make sex and masturbation more fun, I'm positive you'll find the best butterfly dildo here!

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Mayla Green

Mayla Green has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Not in a relationship? Her other focus is teaching women how to properly handle the “little person in the canoe” to experience the best orgasms ever, no partner required! Her creative and innovative tips, techniques and advice is on par with a certified sex therapist or Sexologist, but with an extra advantage from her knowledge of the adult toy business.

View all articles published by Mayla Green exclusively for The Adult Toy Shop sex blog. Mayla Green's Linkedin profile highlights her professional background, experience and training.

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