How to Suck a Clit - The Ultimate Guide to Clit Sucking

Last Updated on January 29, 2024

Imagine your partner asks you to eat her pussy. What do you do? Do you throw yourself at her vag like a hungry lion on wounded antelope? Or do you take things gently like a renaissance painter finishing his masterpiece with a light brush stroke?

No matter which option you go for, the chances are you won't give your partner what she wants. And that is clit pumping clitoral orgasm, either from you or a clit sucking sex toy.

But don't you worry. You won't be the first one to fail at this task. And that's due to a straightforward rule you ought to remember.

Eating pussy is an art.

It requires skill that most guys suck at (and suck not in the right way). No worries, though. While it is an art, it's not rocket science, and it's possible to master it with some effort.

If you've done some research already, you might've encountered several pages mentioning that the key to giving your partner intense orgasms is learning the ancient skill of clitoral stimulation.

They're not wrong. However, if your first thought after reading this advice was, "what the hell is the clitoris?" Then you're in the right place.

The following guide will teach you everything you need to know about the mysterious oral sex technique of sucking clit. Become a true cunnilingus master and give your partner the orgasm to remember. This is how to do it.

The Basics of Vaginal and Clitoral Stimulation

On paper, vaginal stimulation looks like a straightforward concept. You stimulate the vagina using your finger(s) or tongue with one simple goal in mind - to give your partner (or yourself) an orgasm.

However, as with many things in life, theory and practice don't always go hand in hand.

First, not every woman experiences vaginal orgasm the same way. Some prefer internal stimulation, others clitoral stimulation. This is where we'd like to stop for a moment.

Vaginal and clitoral orgasms are two different things. Vaginal orgasms are felt deeper in the body, whereas clitoral orgasms are felt on the surface, hence the existence of the clit sex toy for external stimulation.

Which one do women love more?

That depends on a woman, but one thing is for sure, there's something about clitoral stimulation that turned it into an almost legendary experience.

So, long story short, focusing on stimulating your partner's clitoris can be the key to unlocking the ultimate sexual sensation. This is the main takeaway from this guide and the primary reason for you to continue reading.

What's the Big Deal About Clitoris?

Okay, but why clitoris? What is it about that rather small part of women's anatomy that provides such intense sensations?

Well, thousands of sensitive nerve endings may have something to do with that.

With that in mind, saying that the clitoris is a very sensitive part of a vagina would be a massive understatement. It's one of the most sensitive erogenous zones of a woman's body. Its direct stimulation is undoubtedly something your partner will enjoy, be it through touching, sucking, or nibbling.

But why are we emphasizing clit sucking so much here?

One reason for that is that clit sucking increases vasocongestion to the clitoris. Sucking works like a vacuum pump, pulling the blood to the clit and making it super sensitive.

Where Is the Clitoris?

Do you know why many guys scratch their heads when asked to suck a clitoris? They don't know where it is. But girls, don't laugh. If you're here, it means you might've had some problems locating your clitoris, too.

And since sucking her clit might pose some challenge if you don't know where it is, let's go through a short anatomy lesson before you stick your mouth somewhere it shouldn't be.

So, where is the clitoris? Above the urethral opening.

Did that tell you anything? Probably not, but don't worry. The clitoris isn't the easiest part of a woman's vagina to pin down. It's surrounded by bits and bobs, and she likes to disappear even once you locate her.

The best idea is to start from the top, where you will find the clitoral hood. It's a little flap of skin that covers the clitoris, protecting it from getting hurt.

Right underneath her clit hood is the holy grail you're looking for - the clitoris. It's a tiny nub (or gland) where the inner lips meet. Its shape and size vary from one woman to another. Typically, it's not larger than a small pea but tends to become swollen when a woman is aroused.

Once you locate it, don't let it slip away. That's the bit you will be sucking and playing with to pleasure your partner.

The famous Satisfyer Pro 2 is the most mainstream of all clit sucking toys. It uses air pressure waves to stimulate her hot spot to boost erotic arousal and bring her to the brink orgasm without vaginal penetration.

Satisfyer Pro 2 also helps the vagina to relax effectively making sexual intercourse feel comfortable in the case of vaginal dryness, a godsend for mature or menopausal women.

How to Suck a Clit?

Once you locate her clit, it's time to put your mouth to work and give your partner a mind-blowing orgasm.

Start by moisturizing your lips and putting your mouth into an 'O' shape. Pin down the clit using your mouth and gently suck it up into your mouth. The goal here is to create a vacuum chamber around the clit to keep it erect.

And frankly, that would be it when it comes to the basic idea behind clit sucking. You start sucking gently and slowly apply more pressure until your partner comes.

Don't worry, though. We're not done yet. There are numerous ways and different techniques to make your clit sucking efforts even more pleasurable for your partner.

Constant Vortex

The simplest way to suck her clit is called a constant vortex. In this technique, you just keep a constant level of suction on the clitoris, holding it between your lips.

To quote a classic meme, "It ain't much, but it's honest work." Yes, it's elementary and doesn't look overly impressive on paper. Still, for many women, it's all that's needed to bring them to orgasm.

Rhythmic Vortex

In this clit sucking technique, you create a rhythm of sucking and releasing the pressure over and over again. Dictate a tempo and see how her body reacts. You can then adjust the rhythm accordingly by going quicker or slower.

Hard Vortex

As the name suggests, a hard vortex involves a more powerful suction level than a constant vortex technique. When using this method, you will need to suck a clit vigorously for about a second and then release it slowly.

Like in the rhythmic vortex, you repeat it until she reaches climax. Now, although it feels amazing to many women, for some, this level of stimulation might be too intense.

Licking Vortex

Okay, the three previous techniques are good for beginners. If you wish to become a real deal down in the vagina land, mastering the licking vortex technique will turn you into a clit sucking legend.

In this technique, you add your tongue to the equation, using it to batter the good old clit around a bit, really firing up those numerous nerve endings.

You can start by sucking clit into your mouth and holding it there. Once the clit is inside, use your tongue to lick it up and down, left and right. You can also throw in little circles to mix things up.

Find your rhythm and experiment with speed and pressure to find out what she's enjoying. When done right, this technique is bound to bring her to a body-shaking orgasm. 

Clit Sucking Tips

As incredible as clit sucking feels, it may not be enough to provide your partner with the best experience possible. To ensure you give her what she wants (and more), here are some extra clit sucking tips:

• Remember that less is more when it comes to clit sucking. Take your time and slowly fire up as many nerve endings as possible. The slower you go, the more intense the stimulation will be.
• Don't stick to one technique. Mix things up to keep it exciting and, more importantly, to learn what she enjoys the most.
• Once you start sucking her clit, find your rhythm fast and keep it going. Inconsistent actions might throw her off.
• Focus on repetition when you feel her inner thighs start to shake. This can mean only one thing - she's nearing orgasm. That is not time to start getting creative as what you're doing is clearly working a treat. Changing things now might only throw your partner off.
• Want to learn a magic trick? Keep on sucking once she comes. Like men, women's glans are very sensitive after a climax which can make things incredibly intense. Don't go overboard, though. Suck it for a second or two and lay off. Carrying on for too long can get painful.

Clitoral Stimulation Sex Tips

Now, clit sucking is a great sex technique that will make your partner come like crazy. But clitoral stimulation, and oral sex in general, don't just limit to sucking.

Sucking is great, but it will only grant you the rank of a padawan. Becoming a clitoris master involves much more effort. To give your partner the ultimate pleasure, you might want to try the following clitoral stimulation techniques.

Experiment with Oral Sex Techniques

There are so many oral sex techniques that we would have to write a whole book about them. Unfortunately, that's not the time nor the place for that.

Still, there are several key techniques you may want to try out and master when going down on your partner's vulva, including:

• Nibbling.
  Try nibbling her inner and outer labia. Be gentle, though. You can also try and nibble the clitoris directly, although not every woman might be into it. Nibbling can be a fantastic method to stimulate her clit in a new and unfamiliar way, so it's worth giving it a go.
• Circle drawing.
  Ask any woman, and she will tell you that drawing circles around her clit feels incredible. Use your tongue or a finger to gently draw little circles around the clitoris. She will go wild for it. You can bet on that.
• Licking.
  Licking is the most popular oral sex technique. That applies to the clitoris, too. And while there are many ways to lick her clit, the best way to do it is by using "The Pancake" technique. To perform the pancake, stick out your tongue as long, flat, and wide as possible (hence the name), place it at the bottom of the vulva, and start moving it up and down, passing over the clit. The trick here is not to move your tongue but to keep it flat and move your head.
• Hinting.
  This technique is nothing else than building anticipation. Tease your partner by using your finger to flick and stroke the areas around her clit without touching it. The goal here is to build up the sexual anticipation in your partner to turn her on.
• The harmonica.
  It's not the most popular technique, but "the harmonica" is definitely something worth trying when sucking your partner's clitoris. In essence, it involves humming when sucking her clit (like you would play the harmonica). It may sound a bit odd at first, but the humming will create tiny vibrations, stimulating the clitoris even more intensely.

The key here is to use different techniques when going down on your partner. That way, you will be able to keep things exciting. It will also help you determine what your partner prefers regarding oral sex.

Also, don't be afraid to use your finger along with the tongue. Stimulating your partner's G spot with a finger and sucking or licking her clit at the same time? It doesn't get any better than that.

Add Sex Toys Into the Mix

No guide on clit sucking would've been complete without mentioning sex toys. Adding them to your bedroom adventures is an excellent way to spice up your sex life, and clitoral stimulation is no exception.

Let's take clit vibrators with vaginal stimulation as an example. These marvelous little devices are built to stimulate the clitoris.

Indeed, most women can't imagine their lives without vibrators, and you can use that to your advantage when playing around with your partner's clit. For instance, you can use a vibrator during intercourse, stimulating her clitoris while having sex.

But don't limit yourself to just vibrators. There are several external clit stimulating sex toys you can use, too, such as clit suckers or clitoral pumps.

These tools are designed specifically for the most intense clit stimulation, using suction and pulsations to stimulate the clitoris in all sorts of ways. They can be too intense for some women, so be sure you consult with your girl before giving them a go.

Get Wet

No, it's not the golden shower we're talking about here. In this case, getting wet means water play. In essence, it's a way of stimulating a clit using a handheld showerhead.

When in the shower together, turn the showerhead on and use the narrow stream setting to stream the water in between your partner's legs, moving it across her clit. The water's vibrations and pressure are sure to make her come.

This technique might not be a new thing to your partner. Indeed, water play is one of the favorite female masturbation methods. Still, it's an exciting way to get playful when taking a romantic shower together.

Try Anal Play

Contrary to popular belief, anal play isn't reserved just for kinky vixens. A little bit of butt play can be incredibly pleasurable, and it can really add something new and exciting to your oral adventures.

The anus is very sensitive, and sticking a thumb up there while eating her pussy can rock her world. You can also use a butt plug or an anal dildo instead of your finger.

Be sure she's into that kind of play before, though. Having something stuck up your butt without expecting it isn't the most pleasurable experience, to say the least.

Pro tip: Include butt play just before her climax. It will push her over the edge, making her orgasm even more intense and exciting.

How Not to Suck at Clit Sucking?

Learning all the clit sucking and oral sex techniques is only the beginning. Not sucking at clit sucking involves much more than that.

Having said that, here are some of the most important lessons you should learn by heart to ensure both you and your partner enjoy your oral fun and games.

Learn How to Communicate

Open communication is key in sex. Think about it. If you don't know what your partner likes or dislikes, how are you supposed to pleasure them?

When it comes to sex, you should practice communication before, during, and after your bedroom shenanigans.

Before you get down to suck your partner's clit, ask her what she likes. Is she into anal play? Would it be better for you to use one or two fingers to stimulate her vag? Maybe she has her favorite kink you can use to give her more intense stimulation?

Don't be afraid to ask such questions.

As for communication while playing with her clitoris, you need to listen to her body. Moaning, body shaking, breathing, the things she says; use any clue to learn whether you're doing the right job.

Once you feel she's close to the climax, continue your actions until you know she came.

As for after-sex communication, just ask her for her feedback. Did she enjoy it? What could you do better next time? These are simple questions, yet many men are afraid to ask them as they believe they are the best at working their way around the vulva.

If you think the same, hate to spoil the party, but you aren't.

It's her vagina we're talking about here, and if there's one person who knows how to use it, it's her.

Always Take Your Time

What so many guys or gals do wrong is rushing straight to the place of action with their tongue on a show.

Unless she requested you for quick cunnilingus in the middle of her sister's wedding, that's not the best approach to have.

If you want to bring her to a knee-shaking orgasm, take things slow and tease her. Here's a step-by-step guide on how to do it:

1. Start by kissing her lips and slowly lower yourself (still kissing her) to her breasts, waists, and finally, hips. Once you arrive at the final destination, gently spread her legs. Congratulations, your girl is now turned on!
2. Don't attack her vag frontally just yet. Leave the panties on for now and kiss or squeeze her vulva with your lips through them.
3. Get lower, kissing along her inner thigh. Don't go too low, though. The further you move from the vagina, the less sensitive it gets, which might ruin your efforts. You can go as far as the inside of her knee. Once there, start climbing back slowly, kissing, licking, or biting her lightly on her inner thighs.
4. Once you're back at her panties, slowly pull them down (unless she hasn't done that herself, of course).
5. Start slowly by kissing around her vagina and clitoris (remember the hinting method). At this stage, she'll start begging you to eat her. You can then grant her wish, and...
6. Get to the main course and start sucking her clit using the techniques you've learned here.

How long should the foreplay take?

That depends on how much time you have and how many erogenous zones you want to visit. If you're not in a hurry and want to really give her the most intimate and mind-blowing sensations, adding 15-20 minutes of foreplay will be more than enough.

Think Beyond Orgasm

Eating pussy is all about giving her orgasm, right? Wrong.

Sucking her clit might make her come, but it doesn't have to be the case. You can use oral sex to build anticipation and excitement before intercourse.

Also, remember that some women experience might prefer internal stimulation. In such a case, stimulating her clit may not result in orgasm no matter how hard you try.

That said, think beyond orgasms. Lose yourself in a moment and let her appreciate the pleasure. First, she won't feel obliged to fake an orgasm.

And secondly, you won't feel the pressure, allowing you to have fun instead of worrying about bringing your partner to orgasm.

The Final Word

And that's a wrap! We've reached the climax. Now it's your turn to convert the theory to practice and eat your partner's pussy like a god.

Remember the old saying that "the pen is mightier than the sword?" Translating it into sex lingo, we could say that "the mouth is mightier than the penis."

Don't feel convinced? Try any of the clitoral stimulation techniques you've learned today the next time you're going down on her.