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How to Use a Finger Vibrator | Step by Step Instructions

How to Use a Finger Vibrator | Step by Step Instructions

Finger vibrators are one of the most playful, fun sex toys for couples. The mini fingertip vibrator is my best recommendation for partners seeking a small clit toy to bring into the bedroom and are the most discreet and friendly type of sexual enhancer because they are non-phallic, nondescript and have multiple ways to use them. Simply stated, finger dildos keep things interesting in the bedroom.

Introduction: There are a few minor differences in finger sex toy design, but the steps on how to use a finger vibrator for women can be applied to all types from nubby, non-vibrating sleeves to vibrating fingertip bullet shaped clit toys. In my video demos, I used the same item simply for consistency, but you can follow the same steps regardless of the item you've purchased.

Unlike most dildos where there is really only 1 way to use them, couples who purchase a finger vibrator have multiple options for sexual arousal and foreplay. It can even be incorporated into sexual intercourse for better clitoral stimulation. They are so small and have such a low profile that you can use them in virtually any position including the standard missionary, to the more adventurous doggie style.

What is a Finger Vibrator?

The finger vibrator is a small vibrating sex toy that hooks onto an index finger for sensual massage, clitoral and/or nipple stimulation. It can be worn by men or women, used alone during masturbation, or worn by your lover during mutual foreplay and masturbation.

Sure you can rub the clitoris with your finger tip during lovemaking, but having a vibrating clit dildo attached to your hand amplifies the pleasure greatly. Simply stated, the vibration feels magical and provides a substantial boost to her orgasm.

Advantages

When lovers are shopping for mini stimulators together online, the finger vibrator category is often the last section viewed, so by the time the pair is ready to head to the checkout, the shopping cart is full and the shopping budget is maxed. In my opinion, that's a darn shame!

Even though fingertip vibrators are cheap, especially for toys that are wireless & waterproof, they're not that popular. I'm here to highlight this tiny stimulator with big erotic potential so before we continue on, I'll mention some advantages that finger dildos have for couples to enhance their intimate life:

  • The motors are extremely quiet.
  • They do not look like an adult toy.
  • The small size is easy to hide in your bedside table.
  • Buzzing stimulation enhances foreplay.
  • Adds excitement to a boring love life.
  • Discreet way to enhance pleasure with sex novelties for couples.
  • Helps women with vaginal dryness produce natural lubrication.
  • Discreet styling is easy to introduce to a hesitant first timer.
  • Non-intrusive, can be incorporated into your regular foreplay routine.
  • Makes an excellent nipple simulator for both men & women.
  • Can be used for male scrotum & female perineum stimulation.
  • Gentle vibration is comfortable for seniors & women with sensitive clits.
Playful Couple
Perfect for playful lovers!

Lube or No Lube?

In my bullet vibrator guide I instruct my readers not to use lube. The explanation behind that concept is that you want the surface of the vibe to be “sticky” on the clitoris. You DO want friction when using a bullet vibrator, but NOT with a hand vibe.

Even though the general appearance of these 2 small types of female stimulators are very similar, it is not the same as a bullet at all. Your finger vibrator should be lubricated.

Unlike the bullet, this item is not kept in one place, it moves around. You slide it around, insert it into the vagina and slide it over the perineum. A slippery consistency makes it feel better. This product should not grip the skin, most of them are silicone or jelly as opposed to plastic like the bullets. Plastic can glide on the skin without lube, silicone, rubber and jelly cannot glide over the skin.

In the instructions to follow, I'll omit step number 1 as “applying lube”. I'll assume from now on that you did lubricate the toy, labia & vagina.

Pro tip: Make sure that you don't get lube between the wearing fingertip and the device. If moisture gets in between, it will slide around and be more difficult to control. In most cases, you'll be holding onto the device with your thumb and middle digit to stabilize it, but if the tip is wet, it makes the task much more difficult.

Finger Dildo Video Demonstration

In this video demonstration, I run through the various ways to use that you'll read about below. If you are going to replicate this “sampler”, I suggest taking your time before switching from one series of steps to the next. The finger sex toy is all about slow, sensual arousal. This is not a product that is used quickly achieve a climax.

I describe it as “the road to get you there” and not “the final destination”. Slow and methodical is the name of the game. Caress your lover, take it slow, rock back and forth in gentle rhythm and enjoy the best of personal intimate sexual exploration.

How to Use a Finger Vibrator

There are many variations to use a finger dildo. You don't need to follow the same repetitive series of steps every time. Among all the different types of sex toy instructions I've written, this one has the most options so a couple can tailor their methods to their own unique personal desires. It's one of the most versatile sexual enhancer for couples and creative minds can be free to invent their own ways to tease & tickle their lover.

Fingertip Vibrators for Beginners

I'll start with the basic steps that all beginners who ask me about. Instead of describing it over the phone, it's easier to look at my photo instructions listing steps 1-4. This method is the most basic and simple way to get the engine revved up for sex:


For beginners
  1. Lay it over the clitoral hood and position the curved tip over the vaginal entry.
  2. Lift up your hand and lightly push the curved tip into the vagina.
  3. Remove the tip from the vagina and maintain pressure while you slide it to the perineum.
  4. Press it into the perineum and insert your thumb into the vagina.
  5. In a rocking motion, slide it back up to the clit and repeat again.
  6. Maintain a sensual, slow rhythm while repeating this process numerous times.

Best Finger Vibrator Method

Best method

This creative method stimulates a woman's two most powerful erogenous zones: The clitoris and G Spot. With this magic technique, the clitoris gets pinched between the thumb and the item. The combination of pressure from the thumb on the front and the buzzing originating from the solid motor on the back creates powerful sexual arousal.

  1. Insert the wearing digit and the dildo into the vagina until you can line up the clitoris with the surface of the toy.
  2. Pinch the clitoral hood with the thumb against the toy.
  3. Tilt your arm downwards and rock your hand upward in order to make contact with the G Spot. (Learn how to find the G Spot first).
  4. Massage the G Spot for 30 seconds while keeping the thumb on top of the clit.
  5. Rock the arm & hand back upwards to position 1 and repeat the process numerous times with a slow, uninterrupted rhythm.
  6. Alternate addition: Move the thumb in a circular motion to massage the clitoris while rocking the hand back and forth.

Using a Finger Sex Toy During Lovemaking

For lovemaking

The woman wears the device herself during intercourse and reaches down below to touch her clitoris. For the biggest bang factor, press the curved tip directly into the clitoral hood and leave it there, exactly as shown in the photo demonstration.

If you're doing missionary position and there is limited space between you and your partner's body, then hold your hand flush with your pubic bone and let the interior curve surround the clitoris. You can also push it lower and the the curve rest in between your labia while the straight side of the device vibrates on the clit.

Stimulation From the Other Direction

Finger vibrators do not need to be used “from the top down”. Couples enjoy close-up foreplay while using the device “from the bottom up”. These methods are more playful and interactive since the wearer is in a better ergonomic position to use multiple fingers at once.

3 best positions to enhance sexual enjoyment:

1. The Wrapper

The Wrapper

In this position, the thumb is inserted into the vagina. When a woman is manually stimulated with a thumb, it feels more like a plug since it can't go as deep as a digit can. It's extremely arousing and best described as a “teasing” sensation. The extra girth also feels nice!

The entire length of the device rests over her clitoral hood and reaches all the way up to the pubic bone. The vibration coverage is superior compared to all other positions. It can even rival her favorite vibrator. This method works best for a woman with a low libido, the combination of “thumbwork” plus extended vibration will get her mind in the mood for sex in no time at all!

2. The Poker

The Poker

This is an excellent position for first timers. Once she accepted the idea of manual stimulation with the aid of a dildo, the addition of clitoral touching is a real erotic delight. Full insertion is not comparable to the use of any other type of dildo. It's shallow and far thinner than any other adult item that can be used vaginally.

This is a popular position for senior couples too since it is least intrusive yet has a powerful arousing effect. You can move the hand in & out in a thrusting motion to simulate intercourse, or rotate the hand in a circular gyrating motion. Both motions create quite the opposite sensations so I like to suggest alternating between both.

3. The Caresser

The caresser

A full erotic package! The wearer inserts both the device and the index digit into the vagina. This increases penetration girth and adds a kink factor to this otherwise tame sexual enhancer for women. The middle digit presses the clit, typically rocking up & down or scooping upwards under the hood for more direct impact, transforming this into a fully interactive fun sex toy style.

The thumb pokes, rubs & circles the perineum. If she is okay with a little anal experience, the wearer can push the thumb into the anus and rim the edge in a circular motion. If you insert the thumb into the anus all the way, move the band in rhythmic motion in time with movement of the middle & index fingers to combine all 3 erogenous zones into a one-piece mega orgasmic sensation for her.

Non-Vibrating Finger Sleeves

Lust Finger Sleeves
Super cheap yet so much fun!

Nonvibrating slip on finger sleeves are nubby or ribbed rubber or jelly sleeves that enhances stimulation by adding texture to sexual finger play. It enhances sensual massage and can be used to touch and rub any erogenous zone on the body. They can even be used to soothe sore neck & back muscles, their application reaches far beyond sexual terms!

These are often used for anal sex play since it's the most sanitary way to touch your partner's anus. I think they are excellent for clitoral touching, G Spot rubbing, prostate massage and general manual foreplay wherever you decide to get your hands wander.

They are the perfect add on for women AND men, not to mention the best choice for those looking to buy a cheap sex toy. They are actually the cheapest items in our entire sex toy store. The gel surface gets super slippery when wet so pile on the lube and let the pleasure soar!

10 Best Finger Vibrators

Fifty Shades Finger Vibrator

Inspired by the Fifty Shades of Grey movie series, this jet black waterproof pleasure tool has minimal stretch on the top loop so it doesn't sag and/or slip away from where you're pointing. Fifty Shades Finger Vibe is the firmest option of them all delivers a great buzz without loosing intensity through the high quality rigid silicone surface. This is the best finger vibrator in my opinion!


Frisky Fingertip Vibe

Squishy soft just like jelly, the small waterproof Frisky Finger is covered in soft bumps to add a gentle, sensual texture while rubbing. The steep curve feels decadently squishy on the body so this is the best finger vibrator for comfort. It's super quiet too and has 3 speeds operated by clicking the button on the base of the bullet. It is available in pink or purple.


Cloud 9 Fingertip Vibrator

Wider than the rest with long and flexible ticklers, Cloud 9 Finger Vibe offers superior texture and a “prickly” sensation which feels simply magnificent on the female clitoris. A tiny wireless bullet is permanently nestled inside the plump sleeve and provides a higher intensity, high pitch tingle that has a powerful erotic impact on the nipples. The rounded head enters the vagina with a nice, blunt girth that has extra kink factor for her.


Lust Sleeves

Looking for a cheap sexual aid for couples? Lust Sleeves are pocket change but bring great pleasure to your love life. They cover the entire area and are excellent for G spot stimulation and can be used anally too. Make sure to add lots of lube and keep the sleeve dedicated to anal use should you insert it into the anus. They are extra wide inside to easily fit any hand size.


Screaming O Tips

Looking for a small finger vibrator? Extra soft Screaming O Tips are as small as it gets! In fact, they are one of the smallest vibrating adult toys ever made. The deeply ribbed surface “flaps” over the body when pressure is applied while you rub up & down. It has an unmistakable sensation and lots of fun texture for such a tiny device. It is the most budget friendly of all mini sex toys for women too.


Finger Egg

An egg vibe is just as the name implies, a wide spherical toy that's almost as thick as it is long. The Finger Egg is solid with a soothing silicone layer over top and the vibrations spread nicely throughout the entire surface. This one has the most coverage of all toys of this style. My favorite way to use: Place the egg in between the labia and tease the vagina during foreplay.


Passion Pointer

A replica of the Fukuoku finger vibrator, Passion Pointer hooks onto the hand rather than slides over with a loop so it stays in place far better than any other model. Includes 2 rubber tips that slide over the nubby tip. Ideal for muscle massage as well as other intimate pursuits, but it;s not waterproof so don't get this wet!


Finger Play

A sturdy waterproof silicone sleeve available in 3 colors with firm spikes underneath the curve that grip the clit and provide a highly erotic texture when rubbing back and forth. Finger Play is one of the only multi function options that features 3 speeds and 5 patterns such as thumping, escalating, pulsing and slow roller coaster vibrating patterns.


Finger Sleeves

A 4 pack of brilliantly colored, heavily textured Finger Sleeves that can be used anywhere. I literally mean anywhere! Keep 1 for the butt. 1 for the G spot. 1 for his prostate. 1 for the clitoris. The natural curve is ergonomic for your hand position during body massage and sexual stimulation. A concave cut-out on the top to leaves the knuckles exposed so you can bend your fingers easily while doing your handiwork.




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Mayla Green

Mayla has been involved in the sex toy industry since 2004. Working behind the motto “Sex TOYS should be FUN”, Mayla provides unique tips & advice amassed from over a decade of hands on experience with adult products. She also coaches clients how to fully enjoy sexual pleasure and can be seen in major publications & magazines online.

Happily married since 2009, she knows firsthand how the sex life eventually becomes repetitive (which truthfully means boring), so if you're looking to spice things up in the bedroom, Mayla's your gal! Her literary pride & joy is covering topics for established couples needing inspiration to keep lovemaking exciting and fun.

Not in a relationship? Her other focus is teaching women how to properly handle the “little person in the canoe” to experience the best orgasms ever, no partner required!

View all articles by Mayla Green published exclusively on The Adult Toy Shop's sex blog.

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